60 yr fe, lost my family due 2 husb sex abuse against grd doughters.now have lost them all. im also disabled.now im so lost and empty.maried 4, 39 yrs..anyone knowing of this hollow of life ,share with me,i hate men now..i dont want to live alone..people r hard to trust 2 find 1 trusting around my meds.older people answer only. when he is sentenced i need to travel, i cant drive any more.perhaps relocate2 worm weather.cheaper living.with housekeeper and cook and companionship..a caring pen friend would be nice now. anyone know how i feel.
2007-02-25 13:32:02 · 5 answers · asked by shirley h 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I know that you asked for only older people to answer but I want to extended my sympathies to you. I also want to point out your strength since you are planning for a future instead of just stagnating. I have a friend who at just 20 years old has pretty much given up on her future due to domestic violence in her home. She only had to live with it for five years and you were married to a man doing such horrid things for 39 years. I admire your strength and hope you won't mind if I share this with my friends.
Relocating to anywhere but where you are sounds like a great idea in my humble opinion. If I may say so, it would most likely be best for you to seek companionship through a professional service such as a lesbian match making service. They would be able to screen women for you so you don't have to worry (as much) about your meds and potencial abuse of them.
I know in Philly, there are services just for older lesbians at the GLBT center. Finding your GLBT center may be a good place to start in terms of looking for companionship. That may be a little less formal than an actual matchmaking service which may be more comfortable.
Watch out for the jerks that stalk yahoo questions and I hope you find the ocmpanionship which you seek.
2007-02-25 13:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Shelley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not in that situation...but i can put myself in ur place even though ive never been there...im not an older person...im only 13 but im answering anyways...i would feel lost too....u can hate men for a while....but u could never hate them all the time! c mon cheer up...i dont kno exactly wat u said cuz there were some typos that i didnt understand.... but i do a little. why don't u go to God...i know u prolly feel horrible....u lost ur 2 daughters... u lost ur family....and sex abuse...don't make ur self into a man-hating relationship...theres someone looking for u....but just hasn't found u yet. and ur disabled which is hard...i know...ask God to help u. God WILL answer! trust me!!!! please trust me....i really want you to....please! i know He will...it may not be in the way u want it...or in the time u want to be answered...God always has time set aside for u and only u! go to Him...please. read the Bible....a good verse is Jeremiah 33:3 Call unto Me, and I will answer you and show you great and mighty things which you do not know.
God hopes for u... trust Him...
talk to a friend...if u dont really have friends...it feels good to just sit down and cry and tell everything to God...it may not feel like He's listening....but He's there.
you can message me if you want.
i hope everything get's better for you! =]
2007-02-25 13:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by Teenager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is obtrusive you and he are not gonna grow to be perfect friends. there has been various water under the bridge, various soreness and lost connection. yet like him or no longer, you nonetheless could've needed to be with him on the dance. and additionally you nonetheless could desire to stay with him area-time. So attempt and discover the failings you are able to delight in collectively and keep on with those! right that's a tip: Ask him if he has his severe college yearbook or any old image albums. human beings like to reminisce, and he will delight in telling you approximately stuff from the previous. stay faraway from speaking approximately paintings and track and ingesting or smoking -- except you prefer to invite him what HE likes and hear that. So does that sound such as you may desire to have an interest in him while he's no longer even exhibiting interest in you? Yeah, regrettably so. you may desire to be the mature one. ultimately you 2 will rebuild your bonds tho and he won't see what you do as so unusual.
2016-10-02 00:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by coriolan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said "older people answer only"..(i'm 37)...... but I just wanted to tell you how sorry i am for you, for your situation. I wont say that i know how you feel, because i dont...but I will say, that there 'is' a light at the end of the tunnel out there. You will find someone out there, to help you through this time, and perhaps become a true great friend to you. I wish you the very best of luck, with everything, and again.... i'm sorry for your losses.
... Take care.
2007-02-25 13:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by JSSK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get yourself some councilling. it will take time to come to terms with your losses, and the transition to your new life will not be easy, but you won't "hate men" forever.. but i agree, focus on making new friends and meeting new people. keeping busy with activity will help take your mind off your troubled past.
2007-02-25 15:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋