My husband and I have only been married two months, and I just recently moved to Texas to live with him. Things were fine for the first two weeks or so, but now he works everyday (it's ligitimate) including Sundays and when he is home he is planted in front of the computer. The only time he gets up is to go to the bathroom and/or get a drink. It's ridiculous. We haven't even had sex in over two weeks. I feel like he doesn't want anything to do with me. He says he is stressed out with work, but we never go out and do anything. We don't even talk, I sleep on the couch a lot. GOSH I don't know what to do. I'm living in Texas, and I'm from Pennsylvania... I don't know anyone and I HATE this but I love him, when he pays attention to me. All I ever do is sit around the house and watch TV or sleep while he plays video games. HELP ME.
2007-02-25 13:08:58 · 7 answers · asked by rah rah rah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
omigosh! this was my life for one year! my husband was put on active duty in ms, as newly weds i moved there with him, we were only married 2 1/2 wks before moving. everyday when he got of work he came home and got on this game world of warcraft, he was so addicted, i would fall asleep on the couch everynight and he would play his game untill like 3-4 in the morning. i got so angry i cut the cable to the computer(not good advice) he got so angry it caused a huge fight and i even told him i was going to move back home if he didn't spend more time with me. hunny i can't give you too much advice nothing go him off that game untill we moved back here. he still plays but not near as much only like once a week. we did make a deal that he would play everyother night but some how he always ended up playing, he just might wait untill 9-10. instead of getting on right after work. if you get bored you can email me b/c i promise i understand wanting to get the anger out!
2007-02-25 16:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by kchase 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"but I love him, when he pays attention to me" easily translates to, "I love the attention, but do I love him?"
Talk to him about it. Yes, he's stressed out from work and yes, video games are a healthy way to relieve stress, but he is playing them too much. Make a deal with him. Ask him to play his games for a few hours and then spend some time with you after. He can go back to his video games then if he has time or can't sleep. Clearly though, you married a man with a stressful job and one that requires moving around a lot. Instead of having only your husband to talk to, you should also make some friends with people in your area like other military wives.
2007-02-25 13:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys could use a romantic evening. Plan a nice evening, a dinner, massage, then some sex. Or you could try sitting him down and talking to him about how you feel. I know that doesn't always seem like a bright idea, but it usually works. If he doesn't know how you feel, then he can't change.Guys are not mind readers. Chances are he is hurting in some way too, and doesn't know how to open up. There is a book, The Five Love Languages I think its called that really helped me out. Good luck!
2007-02-25 13:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbaby1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you are alone welcome to the real world called marriage. Your husband plays games my husband play with his remote control to the TV.My husband works 11 hours everyday comes home eats flops on the couch remote in hand. He moved me to fl. I'm from Maryland .I don't no anyone see what I'm saying .Man think all we do is nag nag nag,maybe if they would just listen to us the first time we wouldn't have to keep repeating or as they put it nag.Remember men might rule the world but we rule the nest.
2007-02-25 13:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's doing more than playing video games on the computer sounds like he's doing alot more on the computer than that since you've only been married a short time and he has no interest in sex sounds like he might be getting it online
2007-02-25 13:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get real good at the games he plays while he's at work then beat his as.s so bad he won't ever want to play again......or dress up like his favorite video game female character grab his "joystick"....if that doesn't work you married a limpdick dork
2007-02-25 13:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you married to my ex-husband?
2007-02-25 13:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋