Are you sick of seeing pregnant teenagers/teenager mothers?

Question

I am so sick of it! There is NO reason for a teenager to become pregnant. I am 20 and I have no children. I am on birth control pills and use condoms. I'm in a long term relationship and could support a child in every way. HOWEVER these young children- and yes they are children, have no clue about raising a child and often the grandparents end up raising their mistake. I am beyond sick of seeing 14 year olds pregnant. I don't think anyone under 18 should have sex/a child for various reasons. It's harmful to their body to be pregnant, the chance of a healthy child is decreased, and they're not smart enough for it. Sorry but it's true. Not to mention STDs are EVERYWHERE!
Parents need to raise their children properly or atleast give them a sex talk and inform them properly so they're atleast smart enough to use a form of birth control and abortion is NOT a form of birth control.

First of all I was a virgin until I was almost 19 SO I WAS AN ADULT.

I've only been with my boyfriend and ONLY after a very long time of dating.

I'm old enough to handle a child if indeed I were to get pregnant but obviously I won't since I'm on birth control pills and actually take them properly and use condoms.

Also if I were to get pregnant I wouldn't need a DNA test since I know who the father would be.

I have a job, I have money in the bank, as does my boyfriend. I have education and my life going just fine.

I'm not a teenager- sorry but I am an adult and I'm sick of these little sluts going on welfare and the hard working people have to pay for their mistakes!

Also as for me being a bad parent. Not going to happen. I have an extreme amount of education about children considering the career choice I've chosen, I have an extreme amount of patience, and I'd do a lot better than any of these young girls. I wouldn't depend on my parents to raise my child.

looks like I pissed off a 15 year old pregnant one...Oh well, try birth control next time! Don't blame your parents. I went on the pill by myself! Obviously your parents weren't holding your hand through life so you shouldn't have needed them to hold your hand to get on the pill either. Your mistake don't ***** at me over it.

Any teenager that comes to me for advice I ALWAYS tell them to wait. I explain why and then tell them all the options for birth control.
If they don't want to listen that's their problem!

I think I'd make a good sex ed teacher but the schools don't teach the real stuff so I wouldn't do it on their terms.

I've seen an extreme amount of young girls pregnant and they've all done NOTHING with their lives since the child was born...that's not a life for the mother or child.

I think it's very funny that some young mothers are just saying I'd be a bad mother. Well I have to tell you something. I'm older than you, smarter than you obviously since I know enough to USE birth control to prevent pregnancy.
I had my own place, a job, a serious long term relationship and an adult before I even thought of having sex!
My parents raised my properly and I plan to do the very same with my children.
I'm willing to put money on it that for you history repeats itself. How old will your daughter be when she gets pregnant? I'm putting money on 14, 15 at the latest!

Answer 1

Wow, is it lonely up there on your high horse?

People make mistakes. Teens are pressured into having sex. they make mistakes, especially when they are not properly educated. You have people out there advocating to teach kids abstinence only, no real sex ed. How can you blame them for making misinformed decisions?

But yes, i do feel it is a sad situation.

Answer 2

I agree. I am 28 and never so much as had a pregnancy scare. I knew that sex=baby and started the pill BEFORE I ever had sex. I really don't believe all the "It was an accident" stuff because you don't have sex by accident. I am a teacher and I see the hardships that these children, raised by teenagers go through. I just wish teens could understand that by having a baby they are choosing to mess up another persons life. Their child's. It makes me sick when I hear of teens having babies on purpose as well. What the heck are they thinking? Seriously, no one should have to pay for you mistakes, especially not a child.

Please understand I am talking about YOUNG teenagers. Not 18 and 19 year olds. I know some teen moms who did very good jobs but it was hard for them and their children. There are always exceptions.

Answer 3

I know where you are coming from, there are so many choices out there to use for birth control. The area I live in there is an unbelievable rate of teen pregnancies. Most girls have 2-3 kids by the time they are 20. Its very sad. I have a teenage girl and when she got into a serious relationship she went and got on the pill. Also most kids are scared to talk to their parents about sex and birth control. But I made sure me and my daughter were comfortable with talking about these things ever since she was small.

Answer 4

Just because a teenager made a bad choice doesnt mean you have to make them feel even more about badly about themselves. We are all Gods children. Even with teen pregnancy (such as myself) God still created that babies life and put him or her in this world at the right time. I see teens like me out there a lot but I dont think of them as any other teen walking from school or home. Things happen for a reason. Ask yourself, if you were in a women's belly that was 15 or 14 years old......would u want to be aborted or put up for adoption.

Answer 5

I agree with your opinion in many ways. Couples who are not ready and willing to raise a child together have no business having sex. However, that applies to people of all ages. Yes, in general, teens are less prepared. But there are plenty of fully adult welfare, drug addict, abusive, alcoholic, etc., mothers out there.

I was married and became pregnant at 19. My husband and I had been together for 2 years and were using birth control. We didnt INTEND to have a baby right away, but it happened. The trouble is, I look young for my age. People would give me dirty looks, ask what GRADE I was going to be in, all kinds of stuff. One woman even took one look at me and said: "Poor little thing, being a single teen mom is so hard. Somebody should have told you about birth control." Gee, could she have been any MORE WRONG? People can be so judgemental. Our daughter is now 2 years old. My husband has a job that allows him to have mornings and early afternoons with us. I am a stay at home mom. Everyone who meets her comments that she is the happiest, most loveable and well behaved child they have ever seen, and that she is uncommonly bright. We have a lot to be proud of and it feels wonderful to prove all those negative people wrong. As a child of a teenage mom, I also think I turned out ok. Her fiancee of 4 years left her and married another woman before I was born, leaving my mom with a very sick baby at only age 18. Not to mention that some of the most wonderful mothers I know had their babies when they were still in highschool. Do the world a favor: work on YOURSELF. We all have our own problems, and not everyone has a good upbringing. Dont judge all girls for becoming mothers young. Some of us are doing phenomenal jobs at it, and it annoys us when we are lumped into the category of pathetic crackhead teen moms.

PS: no one raises my baby for me. Her entire first year, she was never away from us for more than an hour. Now that shes 2, shes only been away from us a couple of times for our anniversary, new years, etc.

Answer 6

I agree with you. 100%.

I am also sick of seeing all the Y/A questions by children asking about sex, how to have sex, and "if they could maybe almost kinda" be pregnant. I find it both disturbing and frightening.

It's interesting how so many think that they are adult enough to make the choice to have sex, yet they are not making any other adult decisions. It's too bad that they don't take that much interest in getting an education and contributing to society in positive ways. And, no, taking advantage of the welfare system to support their children or giving their children to parents to raise, is not contributing to society.

It's also interesting how several of the answerers are not properly reading nor comprehending what you wrote. They get to the part about your age and your practices, stop, and comment. Or, go one step further and mention rape, etc. Interesting.

Answer 7

Right. My friends 15 year old daughter is pregnant and I just cant believe it...Well actually I can because my friend does not discipline her daughter at all and she told me that she tells her daughter to use protection, but that doesnt mean she condones it!. Anyways, I think its ridiculous. Im 30 and my husband and I are having our 4th child( we had our first at 20, but were married and planned it) and I told my friend that its too bad that her daughter didnt borrow my body for a week to feel the aches and pains and morning sickness that Im going through, or borrowed my 3 kids for a few nights. Then maybe she would have thought twice about getting pregnant. I believe she got pregnant on purpose because the guy told her that if she got pregnant then her mother wouldnt be able to tell her what to do anymore. Proves how immature these little kids are!

Answer 8

it's funny how you put all of this, cause really when it is your time to have children and start a family i think you are going to be a bad mother. mother's are supposed to be understanding and not cruel and teach their children not to judge others let alone people you don't even know! you are there writting about how sick you are seeing these teenage girls getting pregnant and raising children yet alot of them are doing a damn good job at it...would you rather support teenage girls that go through a pregnancy knowing that that was their consequence for having unprotected sex and taking that responsibility or support teens out there having unprotected sex and killing all these unborn children with abortions? seriously you use your "so sick of..." time to write on teens that have unprotected sex and get pregnant and go off and have multiple abortions... at least the teens who are having babies are being responsible for their actions. although i can see how many people get upset w/ all these little girls who have babies and dump them on people, not all teens are like this! i got pregnant at 16 and i'm now 19 and just had a little boy 3wks ago. i'm still w/ their father and we are doing perfectly fine and we take full responsiblity for our actions. no i do not agree w/ having sex young either and if you do you should use protection, a lesson well taught to me. but not all teens are irresponsible, remember that. i now some girls who had a baby and turned out to be better mothers than their own! your obviously a very UNeducated girl! my boyfriend says " your just another fat chick on the internet!" and he's telling me your a waste of my time...sooo have a wonderful rest of the night! p.s. what are you going to do if you end up having a little girl and she gets pregnant really young...are you going to sit there and tell her the same thing you just wrote?? please don't have a little girl other wise we might be hearing from you again complaining about how sick you are of children committing sucide because of their parents not understanding them.

Answer 9

I agree. 18 and older however, people are adults. But the really young ones are becoming a majority and it scares me.

I had my son at 19 and I was more of a grown up then most 30 year olds I had come across. I am 22, married and we own our home.

That said. The majority of the 18 and under crowd are not like me and though there are exceptions, I can't help but look at my 16 year old sister and know that she is definetley not one of them and it would greatly direct her life.

Being able to vote and hold an 18 or older job should be qualifications before having sex !!!

By the way, as per your most recent " I am smarter than you comment" You really just proved how ignorant you are. I have a feeling you are going to chain your kids so tight that they end up getting pregnant early on purpose and probably going to jail for something just to get away from their close minded mother.

For your information, I used birth control and both my pregnancies with my husband were planned, thank you very much !

Answer 10

I take pictures and 80% of my clientele during the last four years has been small children under 12. I can't tell you how many single, teen-aged moms brought their babies to me, as if they were playing house and dress-up. It was nauseating. And what was worse was to see the poverty level of these little girls who thought they were women. They had no education, no prospects, no daddy around, no nothing. It was depressing to say the least. And I wondered over and over "why did you skronk a guy that you hate? Why make a baby with a sliimebag?"
I think you have about hit it on the head. Grow up, get married, have babies. In that order!

Answer 11

I agree with you partially. I feel there is need for parents to def talk to their children about sex more. Most children are getting their info from tv and the internet, not the parents/school system. Also you are true about Grandparents rasing the babies. But I dont think you have to be so angry toward teenage parents...you can not do anything about it and shouldnt look down at them, its really none of your business and you do not know everyones situation. You cant help what goes on in the world, you can only take care of yourself.