Why is it.............................?

Question

when your shy people who don't even know you perceive you to be a snob?

Answer 1

Catso's point about non-shy people wanting/needing to talk is right on the dot.

Sometimes non-shy people will assume that the shy quietness is a snobby attitude of "you're not worth talking to", especially if the shyness is masked (or protected) by coolness, rather than a more obvious timidity. I'm guessing that people who know you probably say that you give off a cool air to strangers.

The people who think you are being a snob, simply don't know that you are shy. And of course, you didn't tell them that you were shy, either - because you were too shy.

Not all people will perceive you as a snob - only those with lower EQ. High EQ individuals will have a better chance of knowing and feeling that you're shy. But high EQ people are not that common, unfortunately. And this is because until recently, our schools, society, and culture didn't really care so much about reading other people's emotions and assessing how they felt. It was not, and still is not, considered a very important life skill by the majority.

Coincidentally, developing your own EQ is one way of releasing your shyness, if you wish to do that (I also see nothing wrong with being a little shy.) The more you focus on reading the emotions of others, empathizing with them, and subsequently "warming up" to them, the less you will tend to focus on your own shy self-consciousness, and the less cool-looking & snobbish you will appear.

Answer 2

Non-shy people want or need to talk. When you don't talk to them they think you are a snob before it occurs to them you are shy. They don't understand "shy".

Answer 3

Show up and speak up so people will notice you and see the best side of you!