Is my husband addicted to video games?

Question

he hardly ever pays any attention to me or our son and I don't want my son growing up to think that this behavior is normal. I don't know what to do, I've tried talking to him but he just goes into this defensive state. I don't know what to do--please help!!

Answer 1

ANY sort of distraction can become an addiction...especially when the person has a weak personality. I've seen it happen more than a few times...and more than a few marriages broken up over it.

What you need to do is tell your husband you guys need to talk. Then without being accusatory or judgmental, you need to tell him how left out your feeling, and how much it hurts to have to compete with a little metal box for his affections. Tell him his child is growing up without knowing his father, and it all needs to change.

Suggest that if he wants to do it, you'll be HAPPY to go to counseling with him. Tell him you're not trying to sever his entertainment from his life, but just asking him to find more time to incorporate you into his free time.

Finally, if he's amicable to this discussion, set up a schedule of when would be appropriate for him to play, when he should have family time, and when he needs to dedicate time to chores or other necessities.

Trust me....it will take a LOT of work, but hopefully he'll come around. My husband did.....

Answer 2

I am sorry to say but your husband is a video game addict. You should confront him head on or tell him that you two need to go to a marriage counselor. This is a serious thing you have a child which makes it worse because your son is seeing this behavior and will soon ignore you too. Either you guys go to a marriage conselor, divorce, or go to Dr. Phil.

You can't stay in a relationship just for the kid you have to have both people love each other not a wife loving a husband and a husband loving his games.

Answer 3

Play the game with him start defeating him and he would hate the game I know this because this is what happened to my husband and myself. Men hate when their wives could do something better than them. You see video games is a guy thing but some take it more serious than others or I should say some of them over do it! Take my advice as crazy as it seems it works. Now he plays when I'm not around and makes sure that he does what he is asked to do like take out the garbage before I get home or fix the shower or anything that I ask. I still don;t bother him but when he starts playing on my time I ask him to join and he just says, "what do you want me to do?" and he just do it so take my advice and beat him at his own game.

Answer 4

My sons at one time got addicted to the games. Sometimes in the summer they would play 10-12 hours straight. Only taking potty breaks and eating breaks. I worked, but I knew where they were, all at home. I thought it was a little excessive and worried about it, but now they have their lives and rarely play at all. They have cars and girlfriends and I worry all the time. LOL If my husband played too much I think I would just have to pick up one of my hobbies. I cross-stitched too much at one time too. As for your son, you can't force him to be a daddy, they can be a father but it takes someone special to be a daddy. Hopefully he will mature and realize what he's missing. You might could suggest activities away from the house. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Yes, it's becoming more and more common these days. There are even clinics for it, but they are still pretty rare. They won't be ten years from now. The only thing I can tell you is that you have to get him away from the game and get him to agree that he'll spend only so much time per week playing them. Not at all on certain days. That's the best thing I can think of if you can't find a shrink near you that specializes in these things.

Answer 6

My husband enjoys video games:
#1. When he is home by his self
#2. The kids are in bed and I am on the computer
#3. He is sick and can't do anything else.

If he EVER put a game before our children I would leave him and he knows that! If I put going to the nail shop or shopping before our kids he would leave me! I am not trying to be rude but you need to put your foot down and stand up if not for you but your child! And if he won't listen then it sounds like he wasn't mature enough in the first place to have a child .. and I would tell him either the video games go or he goes! Your child should come first!

Answer 7

My boyfriend have the same problem...what I just did is I let him play whenever I'm busy and if I'm not and he wants to play, I just get his attention and tease him..and..it does work! he'll leave that game and do whatever I'd like him to do. But on the other hand, for me it's much better if he gives his free time on video games atleast I'm sure where he is and what he's doing than he's somewhere else.

Answer 8

I also had the same problem..on line games r the worst.

I talked to him and it got to the point, he changed or I left...he changed but goes back to the behaviour it's like any addiction....
Good luck All I did was keep telling him how his behaviour affected our family without blame or judgement also I asked him to get help for this if he thought it was a problem or not.

Answer 9

You are not the only one, my husband is the same way, but I decided that while he plays his video games it is better than him going out with the guys and doing who knows what. At first I was bothered by it but now I am not bothered I even buy him games ( it is a easy birthday, x-mas gift.) Hope this helps :)

Answer 10

My husband is the same way..let me know when u figure it out