She has her heart set on this name I think, but she asked me If I liked it or not. I lied and told her it was cute. But I really don't like it. I know it has nothing to do if I like it or not. Is this something that should be a little white lie so I don't hurt her feelings? The name is Mason, and all I think about when I hear that name is mason jars!
2007-02-25 12:44:29 · 32 answers · asked by Peace 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
Well, your friendship isn't based on whether you liked the name or not. I wouldn't say anything now, because it was just an opinion. She wouldn't stop being your friend because you didn't like her baby's name. But if she asks your opinions from now on, truth is the best poicy, but be nice about it. Like, Well, I don't like it, but we have different tastes.
2007-02-25 15:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naming a child is a very personal thing for a parent. Apparently your opinion is valued, which is the gift of a friend. That means you should be equally courteous in giving your truthful opinion. However, you can be very discreet in telling her something like: "Actually, I am not crazy about the name, but your son will certainly be wonderful." You don't have to volunteer anything further.
Another tact might be to let her know that Mason would not be your top choice but it probably is much better than Doofus. Have a good laugh and once the kid is born, remind him to keep all of his toys in jars.
2007-02-25 13:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by washingtonian3 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I know that a lot of folks have said "just tell her the truth", but when it comes to deeply personal things like naming your child, I've found that people are usually very sensitive and sentimental and not that anxious for your opinion. There are exceptions, of course, but in general, I usually try to find something nice to say about every prospective baby name. I have a very good friend that picked a name that I disliked, but when I found out it was after her deceased grandmother, I thought that was so nice to carry on the family tradition. Now that the baby has been born, it's surprising how much the name suits her!
Bottom line -- this is one of those "support your friend" times, not one of the "give advise & tell the truth" times.
2007-02-25 13:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by phillipa_gordon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a tight situation, and it go either way, she'll be mad at you, or respect your opinion. The only advice i can give you is to consider what you would've wanted. to make things simpler let's say your friends name is Amy. Imagine if you were Amy and wanted to naem your son mason, then your friend told you it was a cute naem but she really didn;t like it. Then when she told you she didn't like it would you be offended, or would you be happy? If you think you would be offended don't tell your friend anything. If you think you'd be okay with that go ahead and tell your friend!
2007-02-25 16:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by Blarhbhb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masons are also highly skilled craftsmen. The Free Masons are a famous, secret organization of a very high order! Don't worry about what you said to her! Mason is a really nice masculine name. Her choice could have been worse! Like one name I hate, is Francis, for a boy, because to me, it sounds like a girl's name! Mason is O.K. I don't mind it at all!
2007-02-25 12:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mason is a cute name. No dont tell her you dont like it, especially since she has her heart set on it. I told my friend what I wanted to name my daughter and she told me she didnt like it and I just thought to myself, so what. Its my baby, not yours. I was just telling her what the babys name was going to be though. I didnt ask her if she liked it or not, like your friend did. But just leave it alone. When she has her baby the name Mason will grow on you anyways and you will get used to hearing it.
2007-02-25 13:17:16 · answer #6 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not your baby to name. As long as they like it, who cares. If you don't like it you don't have to say yea or nah unless they ask for your opinion.
Did you tell her that it reminded you of mason jars? Did they have a reason other thatn it's really cute? You can be tactful when telling your friend.
2007-02-25 15:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by dlr015 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are true friends, she should get the honest truth from you. It would hurt her more to know that you fibbed. Make it a joke...say "can his middle name be Jar?" (Mason Jar) I think she'd understand your viewpoint, and get a kick out of it too! :)
2007-02-25 13:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she brings up the topic again, tell her that you have given it some thought and you keep thinking mason jars.
2007-02-25 13:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by I_Love_Life! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I love the name Mason... so it is only your opinion. I would keep it to yourself. Let her name her children whatever she likes, and you can do the same...
2007-02-25 15:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by hefnergang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋