I have a friend who is making some really bad choices. I don't want her to wreck her life, but I don't want her to get mad at me for telling her my true feelings about the choices she's making. How do I warn her about the consequences of her actions without destroying our friendship?
2007-02-25 12:24:59 · 11 answers · asked by Amer Nickel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Look i may be an expert in gaming but i still have contact with the real world. Be like a sister to her, open your heart to her, tell her what you think, if she is your true friend she will care about what you say and listen to you, if she is not well she is just going through a stage, everyone makes mistakes, it takes a real person to learn from them, let her learn. But if learning comes at the heavy price of wrecking her life than you have to do what you think you have to do.
Hope you succeed and your friend does not make a mess of her life.
2007-02-25 12:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by Extremely Hyper gamer dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that would like to sit down and talk to her about something that is bothering you. Tell her how much you value your friendship with her, and tell her in a gentle way how you feel. She might get mad, then again she may not, depending on how you word things. If she gets mad at you, then so be it. Tell her that when she has calmed down that you will be there for her if she needs someone to talk to. This way you don't really dis troy your friendship even if it takes her a few weeks or so to talk to you again. But this will give her time to think about what you said and eventually she will realize she has a true friend in you.
2007-02-25 12:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by Dee G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i were u I would tell her my true feelings and I would warn heer about the consequences in her life cuz if u ere a true friend u would tell her the truth. If she gets mad at u then just forget it and she will come back to u saying how she should of listened to u.
2007-02-25 12:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by tanisha y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk 2 her and tell her the consequences and reprocutions( sorry if thats not how you spell it), and just let her know that you are there for her but she will have to start making some better judgements....If she doesn't listen, then you cant say you didn't try, all you can do it try to be with her and b there for her if she is feeling down
2007-02-25 12:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ti-Ti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider something that somebody else stated above. She appears like she likes the drama and she or he likes to whinge approximately it and she or he would not extremely need to get her existence mutually. I certainly have a chum who's very like this. She is in a courting with an abusive guy and she or he's continuously calling me crying and saying that she is going to leave him, yet she by no skill does and the drama in basic terms is going on and on. I used to get in a panic and bounce everywhere in the area and attempt to help her out, now whilst she calls I in basic terms tell her i'm sorry and that i desire issues get extra effective for her. whilst she asks me what she could try this's as quickly as I elevate each and all of the ultimatums that I certainly have given her for months and that i'm in basic terms waiting for her to make the splendid determination. and that's what it comes right down to, it is all in basic terms a waiting sport and now and returned they via no skill advance up, yet i would be there for her as desirable i can. i will not be able to tell her what to do and you'd be able to't tell your buddy what to do the two. all of us have one in each and every of those friends, this is, a individual who would be lots extra effective than what they think of they're, yet they're the only ones who can see that, and now and returned they by no skill do. that's unhappy, yet actual. somebody else stated a existence counselor, this is an superb theory, provided which you would be able to comply with get her to pass.
2016-10-16 12:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you just don't like her being confident enough to make decisions without you live and let learn i say you can't dictate to people how they should live their life let her get on with it she has to make her own choices in life and live by them
2007-02-26 01:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go up to her and tell her that if you keep making these choices that it could effect her future. like if she doesnt get a good enough paying job she could end up lieingon the streets in the cold. because that can happen
2007-02-25 12:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by stephen G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont, just let her live her life and make her own mistakes.
that is a part of growing up. Just say positive stuff to her.
2007-02-25 12:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if your a true friend, stop trying to be her sister and be her friend. that is what Friend does, they tell each other the truth.
2007-02-25 12:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by celi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime we have to let our friends learn from there own mistakes because they want listen to us anyway.
2007-02-25 12:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋