Im 13 and gay. I really want to come out to my family but i dont kno how. so could somebody please help me?

Answer 1

Remeber, your family has to accept you for who you are and its a normal thing, dont act like its such a crime today. Your family will be understanding and dont be emabarssed either, they should know everything about you. Be opena nd share secrts or just tell your siblings to tell your parnets for u :)

Answer 2

First I think it's important to work out how you think they'd react. From your past experience what have your parents' views been like on the issue of homosexuality? If it's generally positive then there's a better chance that they'll be accepting. However, this may not be the case as some people are fine with it as long as it's not their own children. If your parents are quite homophobic then it'd generally be quite a bad idea to come out to them any time soon. It'd be best to wait until you're older so you're less dependent on your parents if things go wrong. Most kids tend to wait until university or college to come out so they're not stuck in a bad position if it goes wrong. If you come out now and they react badly, worse case scenario could be that you'd be thrown out. Though I have enough faith in modern society that most parents aren't that moronic anymore. So, instead of your parents come out to people who may be more accepting and supportive. Maybe close friends, a sibling or even an aunt or uncle. It's always good to have support on your side and it'll feel better to share this with people.

If you think that your parents would be accepting then maybe sit them down or approach them at times when they are relaxed or will be able to give you their full attention. Your parents may have several reactions or worries such as your safety or future. They may think that you'll have a tough time growing up with it, reassure them that you'll be able to get through it with their love and support. Some parents may be worried that it's their fault that you're gay, if so reassure them that it isn't. Maybe you could like do some research to be ready to answer questions or worries that they might have.

A good way to come out is to say that you are doing it because you want to be yourself and that you want to be happy. Also tell them that you don't want to be dishonest with them. Tell them how you feel about having to hide yourself and that you value your parents acceptance and love. If your parents are understanding and loving people I don't see why they won't accept you.

Anyway, good luck with whatever you do.

Answer 3

I really believe in being "out"- I think it makes you more sane, and less miserable. That being said, I also think that at 13 it can be wise to play it coy for a while. Are you SURE SURE that they aren't freaks and wont kick you out or send you to some 'camp'?

If they seem like sane, decent people-- then tell them that you need a time to talk to them, uninterupted. Then just blurt it out "I like boys" or "I like girls" (I can't tell which you are lol). Then say, "Would you come to a PFLAG meeting with me?

If you don't know that they are ok, then just bide your time.

Most people that I know had really positive coming out stories. Typically the mom says "Well, DUH" and the dad goes in the back yard and hits golf balls for an hour, then comes in crying asking if he did anything wrong.

Answer 4

If you have no idea how they're going to react, it would be better to wait until you're not financially dependant on your parents anymore. I know how it feels to be in the closet, how suffocating it is. What i did about that was tell a few people I was close to. You just have to be aware of all the risks and have a plan in place just in case everything goes wrong. If you do decide to tell them, get a PFLAG brochure for them, and explain to them that it's not their fault etc.

Answer 5

I dunno. My opinion is you're too young to come out to anyone just yet. And don't think I'm being insulting or anything, cuz I'm just 14 and even I don't even want to think about coming out til i'm like 16 or 17. But you know know you're situation better than anyone, so if you think it won't be a problem with your family and friends, then go for it. Just tell them, no sense beating around the bush about it.

Answer 6

Sit them down and tell them that you have something serious to discuss with them. Let them know that nothing they did "caused" you to be gay. I would say "While I don't expect you to be happy with my lifestyle choice, I wish that you would respect it". They may surprise you with their reaction. Everything could be fine and they could accept you the way you are, or it could go the other way and they could freak out. Try to find some support groups to refer them to if you think that might be helpful.

Answer 7

No offense, but you're 13 years old and you don't know s*** about s***. I'm not trying to be mean please believe me, I think you should probably keep it under raps for a little while longer. I'm not saying you have to keep your feeling bottled up until you explode but your family isn't dumb and they probably know already, but for the sake of a lot of confusion and contention, just keep your mouth shut for another year or so.

Answer 8

well im not gay to start it off but hey buddy your family loves you they might get mad at first but they cant choose what you like so i say do it.

Answer 9

I'm 13 and i'm Bi!!! i have the EXACT same problem! i decided not to tell them, they just wouldnt look at me the same way again. it might not be the same with your parents, they might be more tolerant. my advice is to find the best friend you have and confide in them instead.

Answer 10

well if it helps...i told my siblings first its easier...but bout your parents..tell them your having thoughts and feel confused and go from there...or u dont have to tell them..but they will find out sooner or later