I'm doing a reaserch project on homosexuality for school and it will help if I could get some opinions on how a bisexual or homosexual teenager's life in a Christian home is.
2007-02-25 11:59:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The same as any other teen-ager,most don't discuss their sexual preferences with their parents...
2007-03-05 09:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ms.Capulet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As many before me have said, it is very difficult. If you haven't chosen to tell you parents and/or siblings, it is a major burden on your chest. It makes you wonder what you did for God to punish you this way. You know you were born like this, but it is near impossible to make your family understand your view. Many bi or gay teen boys turn to emotional hardcore (emo) music and the lifestyle as a means of escape. I know. I grew up in a Southern Baptist church that believed that homosexuality was a sin that God did not forgive.
The church left the S. Baptists for the ABA when gay preachers popped up. I know what it is like. I am a high school senior who is out to most of the school. My mom doesn't know,though she would love and accept me no matter what. But, if my dad were still alive, he would have a hard to time accepting it. True redneck to the core. And just so I don't get hated on by people saying my family was broken and my dad died of something weird like suicide, I'd like to point out he died within a week of my fifteenth birthday of lung cancer, nearly four years ago, and he was like my best friend.
Sorry If I got off track. I, like many other teen boys, have found refuge in the emo scene, away from the hate of the church and progressive Christianity. Don't get my wrong, I devoted my life to Christ when i was 12 years old. It's just very hard to call yourself a good Christian when the church you attend signs petitions to have you cast out of society. I'm not some pathetic stoner. I am going to be an engineering major at a great college. I am a multi-talented musician. I am a very caring and emotional person. I am an 18-year-old bisexual Christian growing up in a progressive Christian household. I believe that's my story and I hope I helped your research project in some way. if you would like anything further, email me at americansmark@hotmail.com. Thanks.
Smark
2007-02-26 02:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lonely.
I just came out to my parents and I'm 19. There were so many emotions, thoughts, crushes that I couldn't tell them about because I knew they would find it disgusting. I knew that they would see it as wrong, as did I. I still do. I've never had a girlfriend because I was too afraid of someone finding out.
The main thing I worried about was the guilt that I felt. I still feel guilt. Some might say bad things about me because I don't want to be gay, and pray everyday that I could wake up the next day straight. I hate the stigma that is placed on something that I have felt since I could remember.
I never understood why people put gay people down so much. For many, it is not something that we asked for. It's just who we are.
My parents are the only people beside me that know that I'm gay. I would die if my siblings, church, or friends found out. I feel regret now that I've told my parents (they already suspected, of course). Now I feel like everytime I talk about a woman, they think I want her sexually. It makes me a bit uncomfortable around them at times.
2007-02-25 22:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by pjonkml 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you are the bisexual or homosexual living in a Christian home. I would like to think that your parents would understand but probably not. Don't rock the boat; decide what you want to do with your life and proceed with it, no matter what your sexuality is it does not matter in the long run.
2007-03-05 19:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by ARLENE H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that would depend on the nature of the family. Some Christian families are open-minded and unconditionally loving. At the other extreme are those that are authoritarian and harsh, and all the "love" they offer is strictly conditional.
Gay or straight, I think everyone would have better lives if they came from the former kind of family than the latter.
2007-03-02 15:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how progressive the parents are, mine are pretty good, they don't believe that being homosexual is a sin, and they believe that God loves all his children. It might be a little different if they knew that i'm bi though. Church is the major tough part for me, because of the occasional sermon about how bad homosexuality is, or talking about praying for same-sex marriage to remain illegal and stuff like that.
2007-02-25 20:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Taryn C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD What is wrong with these people. It is the god damn 21st century, if people cannot be themselves and be whatever they want to be then there is definatley something wrong. These families, christian or otherwise, who cut their siblings and relatives out because of their sexuality do not deserve to have a family. A mother and Father should love their children unconditionally no matter what.
2007-03-04 19:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I came out to my Mom she told me I was going to hell, kicked me out at the age of 16, and didn't talk to me for over a year. She was ashamed of me and my lifestyle...but it seemed to me she was more concerned about how people would judge her for it...so instead of being there for me...she judged me, and treated me like someone she'd never met before instead of her daughter.
Even to this day she doesn't believe I am intitled to the rights ever other human on earth has. Love and happiness is for straight people apparently.
2007-03-05 18:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by LoveBats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it'll just put an extra burden on your shoulders,
growing in a christian family is the only reason i haven't come out to anyone(family,friends),you are constantly living in fear, you don't want them to know anything what so ever, i don't know,
and being part of that family would affect you, i mean am kind of into their religious stuff and it kind of limit my freedom and inhibit me from expressing my sexuality freely :(
or from expressing it at all!
2007-03-05 04:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have understanding parents, it's like a straight teenager's life.
Get up, brush your teeth, take a shower, eat breakfast, go to school....
2007-03-05 13:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by mandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the kid would be considered a satan-loving demon unless the family has abandoned christain views on sexuality. Hopefully the family loves them enough to do so, unfortunately others would rather go to heaven and abandon their own family. yes, it's sad...
2007-02-25 20:14:55 · answer #11 · answered by Daniel 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋