Do you ever feel like your life is divided into two portions .....?

Question

... For instance: Fun and Boredom ....... or Business and Pleasure ........ or fulfilling and unfulfilling?

Do you live with this duality? Or do you pick one side and stay there?

How do you handle this balancing act?

Answer 1

Always I find a dual role in life. The ying and the yang in Chinese philosphy perhaps describes this best and there is a surprising amount to the drawing that I was not aware of that makes sense.

I was told today that I was at a cross roads and that I had to make a choice as to what was and was not compatible and all I needed was some insight to make that decision. So as well as being a corporate lawyer I am going for an interview tomorrow to be the the lead man in a pagan festival as an eco warrior which I certainly hope I get. Thus the dualist properties that my life is rife with will merely create adrenalin, amusement and variety instead of tension and conflict.

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Answer 2

I never really thought of it that way but you're right. There are two sides to my life: the life I want to live (leisure activities) & the life I have to live (going to work at a job I hate). My job is just a living, not my life. It's a necessary evil to afford my beautiful house. I resent the hours wasted (12 hour shifts) at work, but I tolerate it to get to my free time & days off when I can enjoy myself & do the things I love: paintings, writing & singing songs, being with my boyfriend, etc etc. I wish I could make a living as an artist or singer but I'm too practical to quit my day job!

I guess I lead a double life. Professional vs personal life. Most people do. Actually we probably lead more lives than that. We wear many hats & play different roles. I keep the balance by making the most of my free time. I try not to let my work put a damper on the rest of my life (though it does stress me out!!!) I wish I could pick the happy, fun, pleasurable, fulfilling leisure side & abandon work but until I win the lottery, it's not going to happen!

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Cheers!

Answer 3

I will honestly say that I am often impacted by this intractable bifurcation in my life.

Pleasure and responsibility, attractive and pleasant options as opposed to competing considerations with no win alternatives.

I believe the less we feel this way, the more integration there is in the totality of our lives, the closer we range towards the optimum potential for the proverbial "brass ring" of a happy and fullfilling existence.

An example for this integration is when someone is able to make a very comfortable living doing something they are inherently passionate about, to the point where they would do this if they had to pay to participate rather than being compensated handsomely for their efforts.

Such circumstances usually result in the magic output of creative energy, and super accomplishment, Michelangelo, Picasso,Mozart, Mahatma Gandhi, Rocky Marciano,Tiger Woods, Alexander the Great...

These individuals and others like them, if pressed, would more than likely view their entire existence as a continuum, with a seamless amalgamation in every aspect of life rolled into the epic record of their biographies.

Answer 4

I understand what you mean. For me, I think it is extremely motivated and extremely unmotivated.

For an undefined period of time (days to months), I'll do everything on time. Clean, school work, etc.

Following this, I kind of regress--let go for a bit and just chill out.

I don't really handle it--it just happens. I'm usually happy during both, but during the first phase, I get tired and feel like no matter how hard I work, there will always be more to do--and it gets overwhelming. Then, I regress, and after a while of this--I start to feel lazy and pathetic,---and return to the first phase.

I don't really like it. I wish I could always be motivated.

Answer 5

With fun and boredom. i have to say this was true when i was a child. It seemed if i wasnt having fun i was bored as hell.

Now im in my late 30s, i never have time to be bored. sure there are things i dont want to do, but after doing them i have a sense of achievment.
So i guess i am a half full glass type person.
Even when you have to do the yucky things, you learn and achieve.
All is good, be it your learning or growing as a person.
We need balance.


BB. ALD

Answer 6

Mine seems to be divided into the real me and the "me" that everyone around me sees...people around me, physically around me, don't see the real me most of the time, because the real me tends to be goofy and zany, someone who doesn't get taken seriously. The "me" that other people see...has somehow turned from quiet and shy into bitter and angry. I don't know when that happened, but either way I'm living with my duality for now. I know that God is on my side, and that's about the only way I can live with myself and be hopeful anymore. I've got some great, great friends, and family who love me, but without Him...I would be truly lost in this world.

Answer 7

Assume both sides are two extremes on the same line for measure. The Will is positive, the Judgment is negative. The whole day is physical exercise, get the best out of the work out. The whole day is a test for the mind, cram for the test. Every thought moment is a possible step forward to admiration. Socially the Will is positive, the Judgment is negative but are they objective.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moral_objectivism

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Objectivism_%28disambiguation%29

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Objective

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moral_relativism

Answer 8

You can't have pleasure without pain. I just take it as it comes, besides you can't just pick a side and stay there. If you could every ones life would be fun fulfilling pleasure......right? That's what I would choose, but it's not that easy.

Answer 9

probably everybodys life is in two portions at some time of their life but a person can change it to be one or more portions. i know a man who had a two portion life business and exhaustion. this past year he sold his house, quit his job and took what money he had and went to the south and bought an old house fixed it up and now rents the rooms out and sits on the beach all day sunning himself with alot of cute girls around him now he is a one portion person

Answer 10

I thing life is not divided but we tend to think of things in terms of contradictions. Our logic is stunted that way. Things either are or they are something else. Simple

I could care less so I dance all over the place on all sides of an issue.