Is it ever too late to find love?

Question

My mum is 60 years old. She was married for almost 40 years when we found out my dad was having an affair. It broke all our hearts. That was 4 years ago. I do believe my parents were sole mates. They married at 16 and my mum has never been with another man. I know she is so lonely. Id love to think that she will find love. I know she feels that she wont. Is it ever too late?

Answer 1

No. 60 is old but not that old. I am sorry, do make her feel young, have her hang out with you guys...she will be OK, damn, after 40 years......wow...I am so sorry....

Answer 2

Really sorry, what a shock for your mum. No it isn't too late to find love but if you don't mind a little advice don't try to push her in to finding someone. If you think there is an opening and some nice man suitable around or likely places where she would meet someone be very discreet. There are loads of singles clubs where many women around your mum's age go but that would be her own choice, if you suggest something like that she just may be a bit angry about it. If she had looked in to the possibility she may be embarrassed. Just encourage her to go out with yourself, family members friends IF she wants to. Sometimes she may be happy just staying in. If she was the type to join in clubs or go on courses hopefully in her own time she will take this type of activity up again. In the meantime just be there for her she will appreciate that more than anything.

Answer 3

When you get to the age your Mother is now, and you thought that your Marriage, was going to be "till death do us Part" is a heartache that is never going to heal, so, if you are thinking that your Mother, will be able to find someone else, is very remote, what I believe is that she does not want to take a chance of finding someone else again so, what she might want is to enjoy her solitude, and with time maybe she will try to go out to a movie or somewhere else to enjoy herself. I am a young at heart Lady, who is 65 yrs. young, and I still see the greater things in life, and am Married for almost 49 yrs. coming this June but, any marriage has its ups and downs, but we have passed through a lot, we still Love each other and are together, until the Lord calls us Home. And I hope that with time your Mother will be able to find someone that will make her Happy, but my guess is that she stills Loves your dad maybe that is the reason you think she is lonely.

Answer 4

It's never too late. I'm 65 . My girlfriend is 35. I never , never thought it could happen. We have been together for 5 years and are very,very happy. I was married for 25 years and got divorced.We stayed together for the kids and that was a mistake.
The present relationship didn't start until I was divorced for 5 years. It simply happened.We just happened to meet. I now know what it is to be in love.I think I married because,well,I was 28 and all of my friends were , a getting married. The pub,bar,if you will, was gradually getting empty;now there were strangers occupying those stools My friends were disappearing,like there was a plague.The plague was marriage. So I went belly up and became another victim.Sweet mother of god, it was terrible.
Your mum has,and tell her this,a long way life ahead of her.

Answer 5

Have you checked with her? Maybe she is fine the way she is. 40 years with the same man and knowing somethings that you all don't know. Maybe she was sad and maybe she get alittle down, but have you really asked her how she feel and what do she think about the situation. By the way, I don't wish any ill will towards your dad, but he will get what is coming to him and I'm sure your mother knew of the affair and chose not to confront it. Just talk to her.Be there for her and give her space and time when she need it.

Answer 6

How wonderful that you care so much for your Mother and want her to find happiness again.
I believe it's never too late to find love but it may take your mother time to get over the hurt and deceit of your fathers cheating.
Your mother may be shy and apprehensive about starting to date men again especially as she was with your dad from being a child almost.
You need to try and persuade your Mother to Start socialising with friends and to go out again and make a social network for herself.
Your Mum is lucky to have such support from you.

Answer 7

Its never too late to find love. Mum needs to get out more...plenty of clubs and groups about for her age group, give her a new lease of life....she may find once she has a social life and new interests that she actually does not want a relationship, just the contact and a life out of the house.

Answer 8

Never too late, but she needs to go to places where she can meet with people around her age. Just look at all the folks that get married in old peoples homes! Wish her the best from me!

Answer 9

Nope......not too late.
I have a nursing home resident that is 86. She was married at 17 and he was killed in a tragic accident at 30. He resolved to stay widowed and lived a full life........until she met the 2nd man of her dreams and remarried at 66! She has had 20 years with him and she just came to the nursing home last year after he past away. So she will tell you, it is never too late.

Answer 10

At 60 , your Mum doesn't need the senior center, she's still a Babe. She will find love. She needs to start doing things, going out and meeting new people.

Answer 11

My mom is mid-50's, just divorced my dad a couple years ago, and is head-over-heels in love with her new boyfriend (early 40's)... of course it's never too late!

She will need to put herself out there a little to meet new people. Bingo, clubs, volunteering, whatever.