My friend and I use to hang out go to parties and have fun together. She is highly promiscuous and I the contrary I try not to be judgemental but its hard to see someone be that loose with themselves. I went to visit famiy elsewhere in another state for the holidays, shes now pregnant and wants me to come back. is it selfish to leave her and let her learn this life lesson alone or should i listen to the drama and guilt trips as to why I left.
2007-02-25 11:44:37 · 10 answers · asked by Diva 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She was your friend before and you knew of her ways and you remained friends with her and you said yourself that you are not judgemental and she's got herself in a real predicament and she needs someone like you to help her with her situation. If the shoe was on the other foot and it was you in her situation wouldn't she help you out. In friendships you take the good with the bad, you stick together through thick and thin.
Chances are maybe you could talk some sense into her and help her change her ways. Tell her your reasons for leaving in the first place and tell her as her friend that you care about her and don't like to see her putting herself through all of this.
Be a real friend and talk to her. She is needing you.
2007-02-25 11:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you. But what i think is the moral thing to do is to go back and help her through the her hardship. She was and still is your friend, right? Then let her that you are there for her and give her a hard talking so she'd be more serious about life.
2007-02-25 19:54:30 · answer #2 · answered by 4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can still be her friend without moving back ther to baby her. with or without you its a hard lesson learned. there are consequences to your choses and shes gonna have to learn them... but i wouldnt give up your friendship because she made bad choses. its not in you control to choose for her and you should never think it is. life lessons are hard enough without someone being so judgemental of things they have no control over or wouldnt do them selves . and if you decide not to be her friend because of you are judging her so harshly remember that will eventually come back to bite you in the butt.
2007-02-25 19:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH! If you're her friend don't leave her but also don't get too cozy with her either just be a kinda support line if you think she's really you're friend. If she not and ditched you until she got pregnant then let her learn but still kinda be there. Don't feel guilty it's her fault and if she is making you feel guilty tell her off because you don't deserve this unless you got her pregnant then you deserve it but if you didn't then don't feel guilty and feel proud that you're there and don't let her make you feel guilty.
2007-02-25 19:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are really good friends then yes i would be there for her and try not to be to hard on her i think she might have learn her lesson now she will also need all the support she can get. how old is she u didn't say
2007-02-25 19:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being a good friend is hard. Ask yourself if you think you might regret not being there for her. Your answer will guide you.
2007-02-25 19:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by nostromobb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm....i've been in similar situations...but...well..as much as it my annoy or hurt you to see a friend doing all those things..you know it would be the right thing to help her out...because it is also pretty bad to ignore someone i need of your help.
good luck
2007-02-25 19:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE!! keep on going! dont look back! she needs to learn from her ******* mistakes
2007-02-25 19:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a talk with ur friend of wat she had done wrong. stay there with ur friend reminding her what she'd done wrong. help out another person, jesus, or whoever u believe in would want u 2 and so would i
2007-02-25 19:49:43 · answer #9 · answered by chezplz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
care her
2007-02-25 19:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋