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Question

when should i tell my parents that im gay. how should i need masive help

Answer 1

As soon as you're ready. Its nothing to do with them.xx

Answer 2

To start, take some credit for coming as far as you have. Acknowledging your own sexuality isn't easy and it's the most difficult step in the coming-out process. It's probably taken you a while to come to terms with your sexuality, so just remember that it may take others some time to accept that also. Be prepared to be patient. It's perfectly normal for even the most accepting parents to be a little shocked by such a big revelation. Be ready for some tough questions -- "How do you know this isn't just a phase?" "What makes you think that you're gay?"

To prepare, it may be helpful to visit website like the the American Psychological Association ( http://www.apa.org/topics/orientation.html ) or the Human Rights Campaign ( http://www.hrc.org/Template.cfm?Section=Coming_Out ) It may also be helpful to direct your parents to supportive groups like Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG, http://www.pflag.org/ )

If you haven't done so already, you may want to tell a close friend that you're gay -- someone who you know will support you. As your parents come to terms with your sexuality, it will be helpful to have a friendly ally.

If you're still living at home, you may want to wait until you're a bit more independent before telling your parents. If that time is a long way off, then you may find it comforting to at least arrange a place to stay -- maybe with a supportive friend -- if things get rough.

But when it comes down to it, your mom and dad love you unconditionally. So even if it may take some time and some awkward conversations, chances are excellent that your they'll accept you for who you are.

Answer 3

I have to admit....wait until you can take care of yourself and live on your own. Your question didn't say how old you are. You need to be prepared in the event that your parents freak out and kick you out of the house. I'm speaking from a been-there-done-that perspective. There are quite a few parents out there that take a VERY long time to accept something like this and they may be very hostile in that time frame. You have indeed made a very big step in accepting your sexuality. There is no absolute need to tell anyone. That is entirely up to you and your timeline. Good luck in your quest and feel free to email me.

Answer 4

dont tell them unless they ask. thats my rule.