My mom is getting divorced again for the third time and im not sure how to handle it!?

Question

It's going to be hard because I've known this guy since i was 6 and i'm now 12. what should i do?????

Answer 1

I suggest family counseling. You need help in dealing with this transition in your life. Your mother needs help not only in helping you, but also in helping herself understand why she has made the choices she has made, and in being a better role model for you when it comes to relationships.

I got a divorce when my son was 5, and I was with a new boyfriend from the time he was 8 until he was 13. The ups and downs of that relationship were hard on him, as was the breakup. Even though he understands that it was for the best, he and my ex-bf were close. They still communicate once in a while, but it's difficult because my ex-bf moved to another state.

Answer 2

Well your family is just one of those families that always seems like something in your life is some how always screwed up. All I can tell is you is stay strong. You will pull through some how. Try talking to your mom about it. It won't change the fact that she's gonna get divorced but it will help you(and probably her)feel much better. Good luck!

Answer 3

I am so very sorry. You are 12 years old and you have seen your mother divorced three times? My dear, I don't wonder you are confused.

Please know that your mother has some serious problems. Three marriages and three divorces says to me this woman should not be getting married at all, at least until she works out whatever the problem is.

There's nothing you can do. Remember that God designed man and woman to marry and love one another and stay married. It can happen, and what you are seeing played out in front of you is unfortunate, but it does not mean this will happen to you. I pray that God give you peace and comfort you in this trying time.

Answer 4

Since you are 12, there isn't really much you can do with respect to controlling what your mom does. If you consider this guy as your DAD, he should be able to maintain some degree of relationship with you, provided that's what he wants to do.

One thing I would do is ask your mom not to get into any more relationships until you are 18 years of age. Tell her you need her full attention, and that you are emotionally hurt evertime she enters and leaves a relationship.

Answer 5

My 3 nieces say they use their mother (who ditched them for husband #2) as an example for their life - a BAD example.
I guess your mom is a bad example for you to learn from to.
Too bad, I'm sorry.

Know that you are not your mother, and her life does not mean your life will turn that way.

At 12, if he never formally adopted you, you have few options. You can ask your mother to set up a regular visitation schedule with him - like every Sunday or something.

This is a big life change for you all - you especially - so talk about how you feel and keep talking about what you need.

Answer 6

It's not your problem to "handle". The older you get the more you will realize that you must take care of yourself, no one will do it for you. This doesn't mean disregarding the feelings or needs of others, it just means that before you can help others, including you mom, you have to have your own situation together.

Answer 7

I fyou get along well with your step dad stay in touch with him. It's not your fault for your mom's relationship ending. Talk to both of them about how you feel.

Answer 8

talk to your mom about it sometimes its better for parent's to divorce if thier unhappy and can't get along that don't mean they don't love thier kid's

Answer 9

get help from a therapist. Take your mom with you.

Answer 10

let your mom know how you fee, also talk to the man that she's been with, there's no reason why you shouldn't keep in touch with him..