we broke up and i was told that he was cheating on me, i found out that he wasnt but 2 weeks after we broke up he started seeing someone now shes pregnent they broke up yesterday and his bestfriend who is like his little brother, says he wants to get back with me, my aunt says i shouldnt and i dont really know i think that he messed up and its not my fault he broke up with me, his familey loves me and wants me to be with him and he is fighting to get his baby when it is born, i just dont know what to do, what if he asks me out its hard for me to be mean unless im already taken should i say yes or should i say no and how should i say it.
2007-02-25 10:50:58 · 13 answers · asked by keke TPK 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
NO NO and NO. usually once a cheater always a cheater. Its NOT your fault that he broke up with you. you are not being mean if you say no, you are being smart. this guy is messed up. you dont need the drama. you need a man who is going to be loyal. Trust me hunny. do not get into that mess.
2007-02-25 10:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by carriec 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
a reason u should say no is because he broke up with u and that was his mistake, but in the same respect he deserves another chance (everyone does) that is a reason y u should say yes--- so those r both good desicions but in the end it is ur choice
but if u do decide to say no u should tell him that the reason u sed no is because u r kind of interested in sum1 else even if ur not, just so u dont hurt his feelings too much
but if u decide to say yes tell that u sed yes because he deserves a 2nd chance and that u really like him and that u could raise the baby together
(p.s.- just think to urselve -How do i feel about him?- and that will tell u just how to solve it, and by the way just tell him how u really feel)
2007-02-25 19:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by lindseyxjonas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be with a guy in the future that is going to have a child by another female that he has to pay child support for? If you love him and care about him then that might not matter. If you aren't sure, ask your family and friends for advice. He didn't waste anytime going to another female after both of your broke up and then he got her pregnant! I don't know how old both of you are but think about what you want in your future and do you really want him to be the one that you share your life with.
2007-02-25 19:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. No, no, no! He's not the same person you dated. He's a father now, and that will always have to be his first priority (if he's worth anything, that is). The mother of that child will always be a part of his life now. Do you really want to deal with that? Besides, he's not even mature enough to talk to you on his own, he's got to have his friend do it? Just move on.
2007-03-05 14:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait awhile on that. He's going to need time to figure out what he's doing with the baby and such--and it's very hard to get custody from the mother unless you can prove (with concrete evidence) that she's unfit. Sounds like he might have too much going on right now to have time to focus on a new relationship and deal with his issues.
2007-02-25 18:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by Maybalee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in no way obligated to be with anyone. It is all your choice. Simply ask yourself "Do I love him, do I love him enough to help him with his mistake, am I willing to make that kind of a commitment?" If yes then you don't need anyone to tell you otherwise. If no then go live your life and be happy. Let him bare his own burden. No Condemnation!
2007-02-25 19:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by SOGWAP37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say NO...cuz he is going to have a baby for somebody else and if you go back to him you have to take care of that baby....just think of him crying all night. It is not fair to you.
2007-03-05 13:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Cyndi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you go back with him that would be sooooo wrong. do you think you will be happy with him if you know that he cheated on you and that he has a baby? if you go back to him he will leave his child!!! just put yourself in the other girls position. if you were pregnat would you like to be left alone with your child?
2007-02-25 18:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to consider your future
His child's mother is gonna be a part of both your lives forever
Can you handle that?
2007-02-25 18:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you should tell him that you do love him and care for him, but you think that it's just not right. becuase why should you be the one pitching in to help someone else's baby?(if he wins) and why should you get back with a guy who broke your heart? i just say , tell him thanks, but no thanks, then give him a reason why.
2007-03-05 18:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by Kidd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋