my x called me i found out that him and his 19 year old girlfriend broke up he is 21 and she has a son already thats not his, he wants to go file for custody of the kid, becaose she dosnt pay for her kid her mom does and he can suport the child that is his. he is looking for another job and she dosnt have one as far as i know he has a familey that can help and suport him, what advice can i give him.
2007-02-25 10:45:19 · 10 answers · asked by keke TPK 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
my x has got her pregnent ok that is his kid but she already has 1 thats not his he wants HIS not the one thats not his they broke up
2007-02-25 12:11:27 · update #1
i think your ex should support the child that is his but why should he support a child that is not his .if he truly love his girlfriend and if he wants be a father to this other child then that is up to him and why are u worry about it any way?it is his life not yours
2007-02-25 10:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by crystal w 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The absolute best advice: Get a Lawyer. There are places you can go to get free or low priced legal help for custody issues. Go to your local social service agency (some people know it better as the welfare place) and ask them who to see. I know too many people who have tried to go it alone, without a lawyer, and lost. This is a child, the most precious thing anyone can fight for, do not do it without legal help, do it the right way.
And second. He needs to
1. be able to present evidence he is on his feet: has a job, has a house, doesn't do drugs etc... and
2. be able to present actual evidence that his ex is not stable
2007-02-26 02:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by RedPower Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say if he loves the kid like his own and can support the baby more power to him. He will need to the biological father to sign his reights over if there is one on the birth certificate. If he can support the kid tell him good luck and fight for what is BEST for the child!!
2007-02-25 18:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by chesnita 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but if the kid is not his, he has no legal right to the kid if he feels he should help support the kid well then he should.
But he has no legal standing to gain custody of the child.
2007-02-25 19:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the child needs to be supported but it should not be his responsibility if it is not his. what he needs to do is get a paternity test done and prove this and tell her that she needs to go after the real dad. she is just seeing him as a piece of meat that she can pawn her kid off to. it is so so sad to hear and see a child being brought into this world knowing that they have parents who don't really care about them. love the kid like you do your own. it is not the kids fault. i would have a serious pow wow with her though. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-25 19:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not to rush. Get a puppy instead.
No job=no stability=no money=no cars=no family=no kids
2007-02-25 18:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Christopher 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he has nooo rights to the kid, sorry, if he can prove that she is an un-fit parent he can file then for custody
2007-02-25 19:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by koi 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why are you worried about your ex and what he does? I would stay out of that situation. It will only bring you heartache.
2007-02-25 21:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell him to move on
2007-02-25 18:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by JenN 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
huh?
2007-02-25 22:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by BG 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋