My partner has the chance of a new job in the very south of England. All his family live locally to us now, my family are scaterred in th UK and further. We have a two year old daughter who is happy and settled in nursery, which we would hate to disrupt. My partner had an accident at work almost a year ago now, but has recently returned. His bosses are making life difficult, he has worked for them several years but since the accident things have got messy. We have this chance of a new life but both have never lived further than 20 miles from where we were born. What should we do??? Bite the bullet or not!!!!
2007-02-25 10:44:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We currently live in Scotland
2007-02-25 10:46:02 · update #1
It sounds like starting over at this new job is going to make his life a whole lot better. Having things "messy" at work (where you are most of your day) is just not a way to live. Your daughter will be fine at a new nursery, she is young and children adapt easily to new situations. My suggestion is bite the bullet and move. Your partner will be a happier person not having to put up the his job life being difficult, which will make his home life better, too. Best wishes to you all.
2007-02-25 10:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite the bullet. Its tough to settle into a new area, especially the first six months but its hugely rewarding and can be a huge career boost. I've lived all over as a child in a military family and later on when i joined the military myself. Its always worked out well and settling and making new friends and picking up new hobbies is more fun than repeating life constantly.
2007-02-25 18:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was born in Edinburgh and when I was 5 my parents left family and friends and moved to Australia. We are so happy here but do miss all our relatives in Scotland, England and Ireland. My point is that you have nothing to lose, take the chance and move, it doesn't sound like everything is wonderful now with your husband's work so take the chance offered. You really are not that far away and you can go back and people can come to you in a few hours.
2007-02-25 19:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know how travel compares there as to here in the US. I did the same thing here when I had an opportunity five hours drive away. It was absolute hell for my wife and myself both as we too were used to being close to family. If you can find other options closer to where you currently live take them. You can't recover lost time with family. Money is important, but family is worth more than any amount of money you could make. We both lost a parent while we lived away and regretted it dearly that we weren't near them more before losing them. And to top it off, I lost my wife due to cancer while we were living away causing family to miss being with her more in her final days. This burden I continue to carry, don't make the same mistake that I did.
2007-02-25 19:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think by asking this question you already know the answer. Sometimes you have to take a chance. Your daughter is young and would easily settle into any good nursery and you should not worry about that. You and your husband must have pressure at home if he is finding work difficult.Remember you can always go back but I think you Will both be surprised it is a big world and you are not even leaving Britain!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good luck to you both and your daughter.
2007-02-25 18:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has got to be more things to consider than what you are asking, you really need to talk to each other in depth and go through all the pro's and con's before you make this big decision! If you really think things will work out for the best then go for it, I am from and in the south of england and it is a nice area to be in at present but I dont really know what you are expecting!
2007-02-25 18:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by mistickle17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, i think it's good to have your family around you but if your husband isn't happy at work because his bosses are making his work life miserable, i would consider moving. I think men want to provide for their families and if your husband is reasonably happy at work then it follows your lovely little family of three will be content... your family can visit if you can't find work closer to home...
Your 2 year old daughter will settle in and make friends easy...happy husband=happy wife...best of luck...
just wanted to add, the poster above is right, you can't make up lost time with your family, depends how close you are...i nearly went to Aus years ago, wouldn't leave my parents, mum's still living, glad i stayed...but still think your hubby needs a job he's happy in...
2007-02-25 19:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by ;) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it..As they say " nothing ventured, nothing gained." Your daughter is young enough to make these moves without it upsetting her much. Also it's very hard to work in a place that makes you miserable all the time, you end up bringing those feelings home to your family.
I used to live in NY with my son, in a months time I found a new job, packed up all our belongings and moved to NC. It was the best move we ever made and we are both so much happier for it. Good luck to you and your family.
2007-02-25 18:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go.
Your daughter is at an age shell make new friends and forgets her olds in time. They two of you need to see more then what been in front of you your whole life, go and spread you wings live life to the fullest.
I wish you three the best
2007-02-25 18:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by choiceav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont you will regret it ok im 14 my uncle moved to texas with his wife and daughter when he was 22 and yes he has so much money its not funny he works for the dallas stars hockey team and yes he makes money but he calles everynight crying that he misses his family but he dose it every day to make a life for him self so what im trying to say isif you move you will miss your familly but you may get alot of money if you have a good job
when your daughter gets older what if she wants to see he grandparentts but she cant what will happen
2007-02-25 18:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋