how can i make my life do a 360?

Question

i want to change my life so bad. im a junior in high school and my life flat out sucks. i try to change all the time. i go to consuling and try to listen to everyone who lends advice. i feel like im better than everyone but when it comes down to it i suck. i am mean to everyone close to me because some how i feel im better than them. I have moods of being angry, sad, or rarely happy. the only thing i try to rely on is my looks and my humor. but they only last for so long and everyone sees the true me. i am motivationally challenged so it makes it so hard to do anything anymore. im constantly putting myself down when i do bad and it just ruins me.i take negatibve attention so much so that i make people hate me. i do this becuz my whole life my brother has put me down. always criticizing me and he was who i look up to. i dont have anywhere else to look. im am completely afraid to take risks so my life moves so slow. i dont have any more good friends just more enemies. please help

Answer 1

Take baby steps, or else it's going to be too overwhelming. For example, do the whole one random act of kindness thing... do the dishes one night, offer to run to the store (if you can drive or it's close by), open a door for someone, say something nice. Even if you don't feel like it! Getting one thank you or smile for one nice deed feels good, and eventually it becomes a mindset to be nice. It also increases others' respect for you. Being a junior in high school is tough, but you're not alone. Just takes a little bit of reaching out and making small changes to help change your mindset.

Answer 2

What your wanting to do isn't easy. But if its for the best, its the best choice you can ever make. Its good to look upon our lives and think about what we can do to make it better. It isn't fun when your walking around and have no clue on where you going, where you fit in, and how you can change it. I know. I've been there. I used to be the biggest stuck up person you can possibly meet. I became a model when I was 13 years old and you can imagine what that does for a young guys ego! I thought I was the top of my world. Until It got to the point where I thought I was better than everybody else and nothing else mattered except what I wanted and what I needed. I couldn't care less about anything or anybody else. I lost a lot of friends and lost even more resepect. It hurt. I felt alone and lost in the world without somebody there to guide me. I thought I'd have somebody there to solve my problems for me my whole life. Than I realized I'm in controll of my life and the changes I make in it. I didn't at first want to change. So its good your realizing that you want the change now so it will motivate you to start. I suggest talking to somebody. A councellor or someone like that. They can help you more than a stranger can! lol. Talk to somebody who knows you. A family member may be the best. Its easier because they've been with you since you were young and were able to see you grow. You need to stop thinking your better than everyone else because in reality nobody is better than anybody else. We all have a life to live no matter how rich or how poor. Our emotions and thoughts link us together holding much more in common than we realize. Your anger and sadness may be the reason why your hostle to others. YOu don't know how to direct it and again, I suggest a counceller who can go over that with you and deal with some maybe unresolved issues. You can only gain from improving your life and taking the small steps is what matters most. Don't leap into doing a 360. Hun, it never works that way. You need to gradually take the steps to changing the things you want different in your life. Small steps will lead to bigger steps and bigger steps will lead to change. Good luck!

Answer 3

Sounds like you are a bit dysfunctional.
This can happen from incorrect criticism from family and friends.
Although you seem like you could have everything going for you - you doubt yourself and your ability to be successful. You feel unworthy.

That's the killer though. If you think yourself unworthy you place yourself into situations and continue with thought processes that keep you down, rather than lift you up.

You use a facade of being better than everyone so that you can feel better about yourself. Once you can accept who you are, and realize you aren't better than everyone else, and that you do have qualities that you can appreciate because you are "different" from everyone else in your own way, then you will be on the road to success. Another thing you can do is to get to know the other people you think you are better than. It just may be you are better at some things, but that doesn't mean they aren't better than you at some things. Take an interest in a few of the things other people do around you, once you take the focus off yourself and apply it to appreciating other people - you will begin to make friends.

Answer 4

First, go for doing a 180. A 360 puts you right back where you started. Why now try acting nice, even if you don't feel like being nice. You might feel like a fake, but a lot of times in life you have to do stuff you don't feel like doing. Set short-term goals for yourself like "This class period I will put no one down and make one compliment or do one nice deed for someone".
Listen to the counselor. Maybe try going to a nursing home and visiting shut-ins or doing something else nice for someone.
Here's a good idea. Apologize to those to whom you have been rude and tell them you are trying to change. Instead of seeing yourself as motivationally challenged, use the label of lazy. Commit to yourself and others to change from being a lazy person.

Hope it goes well for you.

Answer 5

There is no such thing as a perfectly happy life. Maybe you should try finding a hobby that you enjoy, I had the same problem in high school (10 years ago) and I enrolled in martial arts, it really helped my self-confidence, if thats not an option try some type of exercise on a daily basis it will help you fell better. Another idea is relaxing , possibly mediatation or yoga.

Answer 6

i am also a junior in high school. i have similar feelings where i am moticaitonally challenged and i have mood swings (ITS NOT BECAUSE IM A GIRL!).

the only thing i can recomend is to try not to think so lowly of yourself. think about your brother's "achilles' heel." you are most likely just as good as him or better. try not to get your emotions wrapped up in your actions. do u have a goal? there's nothing better than to pursue your goal. i know this sounds corny but everyone is special in their own way. i dont even believe in this but this is my last hope.

maybe this quote can help you: "you dont have the talent but you have the ability." my teacher told me this and it applies to you too! straight up, im going to tell you that changing your life is not going to be easy. it's going to take time. be patient but try to change it too. dont go to sleep at the end of the day unless you put effort into your day! (doeesnt mean that you cant sleep)

Answer 7

at least you got the looks and the humor
it may seem hard but focus on whats going WELL in your life...
only then may you move forward
By the way if you do a 360, you will just end up complicating your life even more and end up in the same direction. I suggest a 180 instead.

Answer 8

This might sound like a cliche, but only Jesus can turn your life around. It happened to me! Would you try reading the Bible?
"If any man is in Christ, he is a new creation, the old things have passed away, behold, new things have come." 2Corinthians 5:17

Answer 9

if u truly want to change your life, the first and most important step is to identify what the problems are. next is to learn how to change the bad traits. i strongly recommend seeing a therapist. they know how to look for the causes of your problems and guide you to changing them. however nothing will work if you are not truly commited to changing.