I've always been a firm believer in saving sex until marriage, but I was talking to one of my guy friends once and asked what he thought about it, and he said he couldn't really see the point in it. He's a virgin too, but he said he's probably just wait until he found some really special to have sex, not until he was married. We had this long talk about it, both expressing our views and such. I could see where he was coming from, which kinda scares me because it made me feel like I was doubting myself. So I suppose my question is, what are other people's thoughts? Has anyone waited until marriage to have sex? Did their partner show any appreciation for it at all or was it just one of those "ok whatever" deals? (I'm not saving myself *just* for my future husband to appreicate it, I'm just wondering.)
2007-02-25 10:32:03 · 11 answers · asked by Archie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say wait. I know that there are a lot of temptations out there, and that sex is a fairly central part of our culture these days, but there is something very special about it when you wait. I did, and I am so glad I did.
This is not to say that I never kissed a girl before I was married, I dated and all that. But I learned something from kissing a few girls. Each time I kissed a girl for the first time, my mind would run through and compare it to all the other girls I had kissed in the past. I am so glad that I am not clouded with that same type of experience when it comes to sex.
I think there is a very powerful connection with the First anything, be it your first car, date, kiss, or even with sex. How wonderful it is to learn and grow in a sexual experience with your spouse. Just find a virgin to get married to so they can give you the same gift. Trust me, they are out there.
2007-02-25 10:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by Chachito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, saving yourself until marriage is a nice thought, but what happens if you don't find someone worht marrying, what happens if your standards are set so high for a potential mate that very few guys can meet those expectations and you spend the majority of your life waiting
i know of a girl who is 32, and she is a virgin, this was said by her and a few others, she is that way because she is saving herself for marriage, but by this time she hasn't met anyone special enough to consider marrying then there is something wrong, probably with her
i did not technically save myself for marriage, but my wife was my first
2007-02-25 11:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had two girlfriends of mine save it for marriage. They were both raised in a Baptist household, and are two of the sweetest gals you would ever meet.
Both saved it for their husbands, and their husbands, being of the same religion, appreciated it more than they could express, although one of them was not a virgin when he married.
Your virginity is one of the most valuable gifts that you can give your future spouse. Sometimes, I wish that I had waited.
2007-02-25 10:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to wait until marriage.
I dated this girl for 7 years and we held out until we got engaged.
We had sex while we were engaged and it was horrible.
We broke up months later because we were not sexually compatible.
If I could do it over again, I would not wait. I would have had sex much sooner and found out way ahead of time if this girl was the one for me.
Those who tell you sex is not important need to go marry their sister or brother. Sex, holds a relationship together. It isnt a liablity, it is an asset. It should be reverred and treated with respect. Yet, people should consider sex life with their partners like they would consider any other aspect of their lives with that person.
I am not telling you to go out and get naked and do it with everyone and anyone, I just think sex is important enough to see if you are compatible.
2007-02-25 10:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Alan W 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Having a virgin would be like winning the largest lottery in history!!! Don't give it away - save it. Your husband will definitely appreciate this gift when you give it to him.
2007-02-25 10:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wished with all my heart that I was a virgin when I married my husband. I wanted it to be so special for him and myself.
2007-02-25 10:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by ang_23el 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's my thoungt on this...I may be out of line but anyway...
Sex is totally up to the person. If you want to stay a virgin unitll marriage, that is your choice. (Very commendable I might add)
To be honest, the first time you have sex with your husband and you are a virgin??, it isn't going to be as good as you think.
2007-02-25 10:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by Magicman 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My wife and I waited. Since we'd never had sex with anyone else, there was no issue of sexual incompatability because we didn't have a previous experience to compare it too.
2007-02-25 11:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 21:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im mid 20s im waiting and im sure thats best gift i can give my partner after marriage.I know it will be the best.No doubts here.
2007-02-25 10:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by aguardianangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋