2007-02-25 10:31:59 · 8 answers · asked by greg t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce and disposable love? That is because so many people get together for the wrong reasons today. If you sleep with someone and enjoy it, somehow it turns out to be marriage or love when really, it's just a great time that wears off with time. People don't wait long enough to know if their hearts are full of someone, they use every organ in their bodies to "make believe" feelings that they would run from love if it ever happened to them. Too bad. love is such a beautiful thing and believe me, it isn't disposable when it's real.
2007-02-25 10:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The divorce rate is so high because of the lower values we set today. Today people go into marriage knowing if it doesn't work out divorce is a simple thing to get. After a few years men and women get bored with the same old routine and start the roving eye and forget the vows they took forsaking all others. Also there is the problem that instead of having unconditional love for our partners we have conditional love for them, we love them as long as they are what we want them to be and as soon as they decide to be who they really are or forget to balance the checkbook or max out a credit card we run out and file for a divorce. People are in love with the image of marriage and the happy family and it isn't until they have it that they see that it isn't all fun and games it takes a lot of hard work, patience, communication and compromise to make it work. Even couples who have been married for 50 years have had bad moments but their values made them work it out not run from it. The sad thing about all of it is the kids are usually the ones that suffer.
2007-02-25 10:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by mandj_stahl2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is not "disposable" for a lot of people; those who take it seriously.
The divorce rate is high for a number of reasons, but chief among them are:
- a severe lack of compromise between couples. They cannot reach any kind of consensus without a lot of emotional trauma. They can't even solve the little problems; what they gonna do when a big one comes along?
- a severe lack of sympathy and forgiveness. We're all human, and we all screw up on occasion. When we do, we need to be able to learn from our mistake, allow forgiveness where appropriate, and move on with our lives. You NEVER hold someone's mistakes over their head forever.
- too much selfishness. There's just too much "me-me-me" and not enough 'we." When you decided to get married, you're becoming a team, and you do things together. You have a common group of friends; not separate groups and separate interests. You stand by one another through the bad times.
-basically not enough emotional maturity. Too many couples are just not fit to live with another person harmoniously.
Marriage is not rocket science; it just takes love and teamwork.
Couples should spend at least a year getting to know one another, and they should discuss EVERY topic and issue that is important to them; sexual, political, spiritual, whatever.
Too many rush into things and then find out in short order that they have some significant differences, and they're incapable or unable to work around them.
2007-02-25 10:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A break down on the moral fiber of the society.
Let us blame the entertainment industry for that. They have been pushing the limits for years. As a matter of fact, shows like "Sex and City" has derailed the morality of young people throughout the world including conservative countries like China and India.
2007-02-25 10:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by ken88dorset 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Divorce is high because a miserable marriage is like hell on earth. My opinon, from experience.
2007-02-25 11:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We are a very mixed up group of people. If the world doesn;t change - it is only going to get worse.
Everyone should go to marriage counseling BEFORE they get married. That might help....
2007-02-25 10:35:37 · answer #6 · answered by snowdrop 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
love is not disposable, lust is, and thats is what the world has plenty of, dumb people mistaking lust for love and jumping into anything before ever looking
2007-02-25 11:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's because we live in a throwaway world of instant gratifcation and without really working hard for it....if it's broken throw it away; as opposed to our parents and grandparents and great-grandparents who didn't throw anything away, they fixed it.
2007-02-25 11:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋