counselling for men? Anger managment? Can any of you men relate to this? Or any woman been through this?

Question

I have been with my partner for 6 years and we have a two year old daughter. We are going through a bad patch at the moment and he just seems to have turned into a different. He is always sad, starts fights. Loses his temper and says nasty things which afterwards he says he doesnt mean. It is tearing him apart. For our first 3 years together he was such a happy go lucky guy. So fun to be with and would never say anything to hurt me. We agree we need to go to counselling and he feels maybe he should go alone too. He is embarrased by this but knows there is something wrong with him but doesnt know what. We used to be so happy.

Answer 1

I've been in counseling for several years. It works, as long as you don't find yourself with a counselor whose only active involvement in the counseling is billing your insurance company. It also only works if he's committed to working on whatever's wrong with him, which it sounds like he is.

One thing you might also have him do is visit his primary-care physician to be evaluated for depression. That person can give him counseling referrals, but can also evaluate him for possible antidepressant medication.

Answer 2

Bills?? Stress at work?? Drug use you may not know about at the present time. Maybe low self esteem??? Does not want to be married or want a divorce MAYBE. He does sound in need of a counselor. I think a counselor would help both of you together ,and you both should go alone to a therapist also. Communication may just be the problem. Depression?

There is many reasons for his actions.I feel like you may want to be kind to him ,and try therapy.He could have diabetes this can cause the actions you have described above too.

Good Luck and Be Patient

Answer 3

From your timeline it sounds like he changed about the time you became pregnant and gave birth. You didn't give your ages but some psychiatric problems don't appear until the early twenties. Counselling could save your lives....go now, don't wait till you hate each other and the best of luck to you both.

Answer 4

I'm not answering your question but speak from exp. Could be alcohol, drugs, caffeine and the added stress of your kid?

Answer 5

please don't be embarrassed to get help. it will help if both of you go. you need to help one another through this before it gets too far out of hand. do it, you will see how much better things will be trust me!

Answer 6

listen i think you need it!!!!!!!!!!