....such utter idiots when it comes to an argument? Why will my other half not shut his big trap for one minute to let me say something? Now I'm the one left crying and not wanting to go to bed as I have to lie by him and he's up there snoring his head off!!! I love him but he really does think he's the be all and end all in a row! AAARGGHHH!!! I just needed to get that out!!! Thanks!
2007-02-25 10:21:12 · 22 answers · asked by t11omo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
lol they suck
2007-02-25 10:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I am a man who is married to a lady I have been in love with for these passed 42 years, and looking for our 43rd anniversary, and the only advice I can really pass onto you both, is to never ever go to bed angry, if the arguement cannot be resolved before you both sleep, you will both still be angry when you are up in the morning. My wife and I have of course had our differences in the past, but we have always had the discussion held at a lower volume,because we have had 11 children to raise in our lives together. 4 of our own, and 7 adoptees, and it was always better if the children didn't have to hear what we had to say to each other, so they wouldn't think we were bashing the heads of us both together. There comes a time when you have to accept that one of you, in an arguement is prepared to just sit out all the aggression, and let life go on, at least when you can do that, the arguement is already, 50% over, and your lives are already halfway to being repaired too, then there's this angle too. YOU say that you have to lie by him while he snores! OK stop that for a start, and stay downstairs, and see what he is like when he rises, if he doesn't notice you gone! he may even come down to you and his 1st question will probably be," Why aren't you in bed?", NOW'S YOUR CHANCE... just say to him. (in tears of course) you are so tired of the arguements, and you just wanted a little time to put a few things through your own mind, without having to listen to him shouting the odds, and you think it is a lonely place to be, when you don't have him close to you, and feeling the love you have always got in your heart and mind for him. and there he will stand, metaphorically gobsmacked!, and his arms already open to you, and little you asking him "will you please take me to bed! because I love you"... now you're cookin'.
good luck honey, hope it works for you...xXx..... Tony M
2007-02-25 11:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean and I'll growl with you. I have spent more nights in your condition then I care to remember. Early marriage years that is and he could care less if I slept on the floor and cried all night. He absolutely seemed to not have a heart. We where so opposite. Few women would have put up with the cold cold heart he had. We struggled for years while making the military a career and having 5 children and somewhere along the line he became a devoted christian man and he has since been the BEST husband, father, friend. Like living with and loving another man and I love all the love and attention I get.~~He says he is the luckiest man in the world that I stuck it out till through Gods grace he shaped up instead of me shipping him out~Jill
2007-02-25 10:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you got to vent. I often sit down and write in a journal which makes me feel better or I get in the car and go for a drive. That's great for me. Why are some men that way? I don't know. It's a mystery same as with women. I hope you'll get some rest.
2007-02-25 10:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by VW 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They won't shut up because they know once we start to make our point in the argument we win because they're usually completely wrong & won't admit it! He'll probably then act like nothing happened in the morning because they also can't bring themselves to say sorry because that's admitting they were in the wrong.Just take a deep breath and be satisfied you are the bigger person & most likely 100% right!
2007-02-25 10:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep we can be idiots.
I don't mean to patronise but how anyone get a good night's sleep when they have just had a row with their loved one? I can't sleep without knowing that me and my wife are okay after an argument. No closure no sleep for me.
2007-02-25 10:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by Doodle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in arguments won't be led by reason, but by vanity and the stubborn urge to win, despite reason.
So we being the better sex need to humour men and let them get on with their idiotic fantasy that they are infallible!
Get a nice hot drink and something nice to snack on, spoil your self a little
2007-02-25 10:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by karen464916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is why i always wait until the other person is done and then speak but otherwise i never participate in an argument. and im prone to letting the other person win if i have no excuse.
2007-02-25 10:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by dangel6667 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should by now know him, and need to focus on something what he knows naff all about, so that you can read up on it, then you can turn the arguments in that direction and get one over on him.
2007-02-25 10:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by fool4love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man dont like to be wrong in an argument thats why you can never get a word in edge ways.
2007-02-25 10:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol well men ive learned from my brother and from my dad r usually stupid gits so i would scream to the top of yur lungs about how much of an idiot and ****** he is being until u get to his weak spot which believe it or not all men have
2007-02-25 14:03:33 · answer #11 · answered by ssd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋