Its true isnt it. when a guy hits you, it will happen again?

Question

I just moved in with my b/f . with my 10 year old daughter. we have only been seeing each other 4 six months. This is now the second time it has happend. First we argue, i have a different opion. Then he hits & kickes me. I shouldnt have to stop my opion , just to keep him happy.
and i know no woman desurves this, as i am 33. If i leave i leave with nothing. i rip my daughter out of her school.
I dont belive it will work as a simple sorry is no remorse at all...
Should i slowley try to save a little and leave? My daughter will be crushed if she looses everything as well.
OH im off to docters as my sholder is out of place. (i carnt moove it. ) life sux some times hey.

Answer 1

It was MY expierence such was true. I wound up having a late term abortion because of it. I suggest you grab your daughter and just get the hell out. THINGS can be replaced, a mother CAN'T be replaced.

Answer 2

Yah! and probably harder the next time. If you care so much about your daughter you will get her out of there before he starts on her. You're right, no woman deserves this, so why do you think you do? Get out while you can! You will not leave with nothing. What you will leave with is all your body parts intact, and a daughter that is not traumatized. By the way, how could you have missed the signs that this man was abusive? Did you see them, or were you so desperate for a man that you would even consider someone like this? Did you think you could "change" him. GET OUT NOW!!! While you still can.

Answer 3

First of all, that is abuse and you have to take that. If you are in the united states, you can turn him into the cops on assult and battery charges, but judging from your screen name I'm guessing your not in the U.S. I cant say what charges you can press in austrailia because i dont know austrailian law but I would look it up with your local police precinct. If you have friends or family somewhere that you can stay with them, the I would definately get out of there and away from this guy. He is bad news. If you dont have family then yes, protect your daughter and start saving up to leave. If he's leaving marks on you, then you need to report him to the police. And yes it is true, men will continue to hit you if you let them. My fathers been doing it to me since I was 7 years old. I'm 18 now and in three weeks I'm off to Navy boot camp and I will never have to see the SOB again. Good luck, and stay strong.

Answer 4

Get out right now. He will hurt you and maybe your daughter too. This is very dangerous and it is not to be taken lightly. Many women lose their lives at the end of an abusive relationship. I would rather buy new stuff than bury someone. call the police right now and have an officer with you when you move out . go to a shelter or anywhere but there. Good luck .

Answer 5

Any man whether its father or brother or husband has no right to hit.Hitting is a form of abuse and control.Its trying to control a person by fear or abuse.Its like stronger person trying to hurt a weaker person.Dont take it lying down.I know of a friend who used to get hit for no reason at all until she was almost 24 and her mother did nothing to protect or stop it since she didnt want to leave the husband.I on the other hand feel such men should be killed or shot.So you have realised you need to move on it wont stop and your daughter is your priority.God bless.

Answer 6

GET AWAY FROM HIM ASAP!
ask ur family, relatives or friends for help. Meanwhile start saving up. Where did u live before? ask ur landlord if u can move back in...if u dont move away from him he mite even hurt ur daughter next...she can adjust to moving but dont let her get adjusted to his hitting. Also, look over the legal matters..and call the police if this happens one more time....
(random: its not such a bad idea to defend urself u noe...and if u dont know how then take some classes at the community centre...they're not that expensive) good luck =]

Answer 7

Okay ... let me put it this way:

What will make you feel worse: taking your daughter out of school, or taking her to the emergency room?

What will make you feel worse: your daughter losing all her material possessions, or your daughter losing her life if he ever goes too far?

As long as you are leaving your daughter in this situation, you are telling her that this waste of oxygen is more important to you than she is.

I have known of abusers changing their ways, but it takes a lot of time, a lot of counseling, a lot of soul-searching, etc. (I know of one who didn't get his act together until about 2-3 years after his g/f booted him, restraining order, etc., but he now wishes every day for one more conversation with his ex so he can fall at her feet and beg forgiveness for what he did - not because he wants her back, but because he wants her to know how much he regrets his actions.) This said, it doesn't sound like this guy is going to do that.

Leave. Tonight. There are even places you can call that will help you get out and help you back on your feet.

Answer 8

Not to judge you or anything but that was not a good idea to move in with him. Besides you want to give a man the 3rd degree screening before you bring a man around your child. I work for child protective services and see this type of thing everyday. And I'll tell you this if anyone finds out about it, your child could be removed from your care becasue it's failure to protect your child from a situation that could occur. I know that you don't want to leave and that you will have nothing but there is help in every town and state in america. You may need to find out where the local women's shelters are and don't tell him where you are. That's not a healthy relationship. Get help fast because you don't want your daughter to be a witness to any of the abuse going on. If he can so easliy hit you he could also turn to your daughter. which in turn could possibly lead to sexual abuse and that's a whole list of problems in itself. If you can't find a shelter then call the police they can help you find one.

I love doing my job and helping women, children and there families and really are concened about you and your child's safety. Like I said I see it EVERYDAY and if you continue to stick around you could end up dead. Get help fast and if you need further help just click on my avatar and email me for any further help that you may need.

Answer 9

you have just answered your own question you no you should leave so just go,go to the local council they cant see you homeless or go to a women refuge...which would be best watching your daughter grow up in a house full of abuse letting her think that's the way a woman should be treated a woman should be a doormat for a man or should i say a punching bag and its normal OK its going to be hard taking your daughter out of a school and trying to settle her in to another and making new friends but i think she will thank you in the end. leave with nothing it will be worth it in the end. The very best of luck hope it works out for you..

Answer 10

Get out now!!!!! For one you don't deserve that and if he hit you once then he will likely do it again. Some people change but he would have to go seek help from a professional for that. Not to mention with your daughter involved I mean one day she could be the one getting hit and that is out of the question. Save both of yourselves a.s.a.p! Good luck!

Answer 11

Did you ever hit him first? (legit question.. at anytime) With my X wife I let her beat the **** out of me 6 times before I did anything back.. that 7th time for some dam strange reason she was actually suprised when she regained conciousness and got off the floor) It took me a long time to learn.. but these days.. I will absolutly hit anyone with a vengance that thinks they can hit me first.. regardless of sex.. now Chicks for some damn strange reason think they can do that.. Not with me.. not anymore.. you wanna be equal? OK yer equal...

Now if this is not the case in your case.. thats not a good thing.. and yeah it will continue most likely.. and in fact it will prob get worse over time...