2007-02-25 09:50:39 · 46 answers · asked by greg t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would you be ashamed?
Get off your high horse and be supportive of her
2007-02-25 09:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Einstein 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. Nurses do make a lot of money. How much money a person makes is not a reflection of the kind of person they are. If you are both okay with each other's career choices and are happily married, then income should have no bearing. I realize that many men have the ideal that they should be making more money than their wives and that it makes them a better provider. That is a noble belief. Still nowadays, the pressure is off of guys - women are taught to not rely on a man and to pursue their own career choices. Now thankfully, men and women can both be secure with who they are and with the choices they make without having guilt. Just as you feel ashamed for making less money than your wife, many women feel ashamed for being stay-home-moms because they feel they are not contributing as much to the family. Both of these notions are incorrect. Be glad your wife makes the income she does and hopefully enjoys her job. Hopefully you enjoy your job as well. As long as you are both happy, that is really all that counts. You mean more to your wife than just a simple paycheck, I'm sure. Whatever attributes she fell in love with about you are what she likely considers as important. Please don't be ashamed. It's a waste of energy that could be put to use in better ways.
2007-02-25 10:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife is also a nurse. My wife also makes more money than I do. I am not ashamed -- I'm proud of her and happy for her and for us. When I listen to her talk about her job, I realize that she earns every penny she gets paid. She works in a neurosurgery ICU, and the work is both emotionally and physically draining. When I think about it honestly, I feel sure that I could not do what she does. I work as a computer programmer at a manufacturing company; it's a job I like and a company I like. We need both our incomes, and even though mine is a bit less than my wife's, I know they're both important for our family.
2007-03-01 01:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a good reason as to why you should be ashamed? As long as she taking care of business at home with what she makes, what else do you expect from her in the relationship. If she wasn't helping with bills and your expenditures, then you should have a problem. Having been in a 31 yr. marriage where I always made the money for the family for majority of those years, then I can tell you that if she's doing right by you & the marriage, don't rock the boat.
2007-02-25 10:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Greg, nowadays some women do make more then men, but there shouldn't be any shame about your wife making more. She is in a profession that does pay good money. I'm sure you help around the house and with the kids so you make up for it by being useful. Never allow someone make you feel that you should be making more, if it does become a problem with you and her both then it would be a problem.
2007-02-25 10:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BE appreciative. Support her. Be thankful. Nursing is a good, honest, tough profession. I know. I'm a nurse. We make good money but we work long, hard hours. Never be ashamed. Aren't you two in this together?
2007-02-25 09:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you have your wife working a full-time job and there are kids involved who they hardly see, or see you either and that it takes your wife's time away from you and your kids, to which she can be home with them and you, than focusing on her career.
You shouldn't be ashamed, but you should at least try to get a more payable job to which she doesn't have to work and take care of the kids, that's if there are kids involved.
My opinion. But what do you think you should do?
2007-02-25 10:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sincerely asking this question, the answer is no. We are no longer in a time where the man needs to be the primary bread winner. It should not matter who makes more or less as long as you are able to financially satisfy your obligations as a married couple. Be proud of her, not ashamed!
2007-02-25 09:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by U812B4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
,No you shouldn't be ashamed. However, if it makes you feel inferior in any way then perhaps you should further your education so that you can have a career that you feel better about. It might even make your relationship better. Women like to feel like their lovers are trying to better themselves, especially when it is for the security and well being of the couple in general.
2007-02-25 09:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, You must do what makes you happy. I make less money than my husband, but I love what I do. Money is very important now adays but it is not everything. As long as the both of you are making it financially and your wife doesn't have a problem with it, then you shouldn't worry about it.
2007-02-25 09:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Certainly not. You should be proud to be married to a woman who works in a profession that pays as well as hers does. Remeber, she had to go to school for quite some time to qualify to make the kind of money she makes. All the more reason to
appreciate her.
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2007-02-25 09:57:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋