I would really like it if my ex-bf?

Question

sincerely apologized to me. I am very sad and have been going thru a depression because my once wonderful ex bf completely betrayed me and lied to me. When we were together his only real flaw was that he was depressed and felt suicidal and wanted me to help him through it, and once I did he lied to me about why he wanted our relationship to end. He left me to be w/someone else. More importantly, this is the person that supposedly made him feel this way. How could he do this and not feel one ounce of remorse or regret. When I found out he couldnt even face me ans turned ugly to me. Can someone help me understand? I know now they are not together but he is probably with someone else. Why do I care?? Because he seemed in cush despair, told me he couldn't live and was going to commit suicide, but apparently he seems to be alive and well. I on the other hand realize I couldnt handle how he could be so cruel to me after all he put me through. I just wanted and still want genuine

apology. How can someone do this and not feel anything. He is so selfish and I feel he should be emabarassed. He is 29 yrs old. Good education.
Will I ever get that apology.??

Answer 1

Your ex is an amoral leech. He feeds off people (probably off the person who is with now as well) Count yourself lucky he left you.
You are now free to find a good man, one who is not suicidal, emotionally vacant or impecunious.
A good man is comfortable with who he is, one who does not download his manufactured problems on to you.
Oh and if you ever meet your ex again, say hi to him and thank him for leaving you. Tell him it was the best thing he could have done for you.

Answer 2

Your relationship was screwed from the get go. You had the "hero" complex, where you attempted to be a hero and save this guy. (which stems from you either being really self-conscious about yourself or, you having a huge heart or both). You can't save everybody, and its better not to start a relationship like that anyways. You can be a friend with an individual, and if they get out of their slump, then pursue a romantic relationship from that friendship.
To answer your question about the apology, you will probably get an apology at some time, probably after a couple years if he isn't talking to you. Guys normally take along time to get over things, and reflect more so than females. If he is a total **** head, or just really hates you, then I wouldn't expect an apology, and only you know how the relationship ended.
You sound like an amazing person, don't give up on guys, and just find one that has his stuff together and no baggage. This will give you a great foundation. Good luck, gurl.

Answer 3

I believe the clue to understanding your bf's behavior is this:

Your bf first felt depressed and suicidal because his ex-gf made him feel that way.

Obviously, he was dumped by her - and he felt depressed and suicidal.

And then he got together with you: a crutch-recovery relationship. But he still hadn't completely gotten over his ex-gf. You were there to keep him company, comfort him, and assuage his pain - not because he really loved you. He still "loved" his ex-gf. He might not have realized it, but he used you emotionally & physically to get back on his feet again.

And after he did, he dumped you and tried to walk back to his ex-gf. Which failed, of course, since his ex-gf had already dumped him before. He got rejected yet again.

You would like an apology?

Do not expect or want an apology from him. He will not be able to give you a sincere, heartfelt apology for a very, very long time. If your recovery depends on that apology, will you then wait until he gives it to you before you move forward? Will you allow yourself to remain in grief and perhaps become depressed, just like he was when he was dumped by his ex-gf? Will you close your own heart, because his heart was closed also? Will you give up on love, simply because he did not & could not love you?

An apology will not change what he did, and it will not make your pain go away. Just open your heart, and let him go. If he desires to be free, then set him free, so you can be free - this is what true love would do. Ask your heart, "What would love do now?" Let go, I think, and wish him happiness - as you would wish yourself happiness. Do this for your family, your friends, and most of all, your self and your heart - and even your future love, who is surely waiting for you now, though you see it not.

And next time, please be more careful of appearances. 29, educated, and "wonderful" to you, does not mean he is a good man. 29 does not mean mature, educated does not mean they know how to love or be considerate of others, and "wonderful" to you in the beginning is natural when a guy is chasing you.

I wish for you the very best of love - and I am sure that it will come for you

Answer 4

i'd not carry her to blame for what got here about with you ex bf. provide her the great factor about the doubt until eventually she promises reason to no longer trust her. I advise i'd not be telling each thing and some thing yet so a recommendations as you could tell she went by an similar element and also you adult men ought to likely strengthen an particularly tremendous friendship because of it. Your ex is the asshole and also you mustn't blame her for what got here about. Like I said, until eventually she promises a reason to be disillusioned or mad at her... be acquaintances!

Answer 5

Your once wonderful ex boyfriend was obviously a wonderful game player, and he took advantage of you. If he cared, yes, he would call, but like all players that treat women like ragdolls, he had his fun,and threw you out. I have been there, and I know it makes ya sad, makes ya think you are a failure in some way, but really, he has the problem. Guys like that don't usually find true love, cause they don't know how to give it, so in reality, he will be far lonlier thatn you, a person who cares, and does have a loving heart. Keep your head up, your guy is out there!

Answer 6

He obviously had strong feelings for her which may be why he had such a problem with depression. If you get involved with someone who has feeling for someone else then you take the risk that they will go back to them. He was probably trying to make it easier on you by lieing, but the truth is always better in the long run.

Answer 7

Why should he lie to you? Apologize to yourself for being fooled by a player, and then get on with your life.