2007-02-25 09:39:10 · 23 answers · asked by Ruth B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get really, really happy. That's guaranteed to piss her off!
2007-02-25 09:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wife Screwed
2016-10-21 09:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by kawamura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess my first comment would be, are you the victim or did you do something that justified the divorce or the screwing you took? Now not trying to be rude, just viewing my opinion.
If the above isnt the case, then I would suggest this to you. As much as this may sound like tripe to you, I have found that the best ways to get even in most cases, when unjustly screwed over, is to:
1. Be as happy as you can possibly be.
2. Be or become the best, most successful person you can be.
3. Be patient. In most cases, the person who screws you over, will in time have to face what they did and they will not be able to shrug it off easily or deny what they did.
4. Think of the times that you have screwed others over, did mean things to others, caused others unnecessary or unjustified problems or pain. When you do this, you will see that in some cases you only get what you gave. You may also understand how people can hurt you so easily and without regard, for you will recall when you did the same things.
When you show people that you not only are okay, but actually very happy and successful, it tends to piss them off. Show them that after them, you are a lot better person and enjoying life so much more then you ever did with them. Basically, in a way it shows them that without them, your life is better.
The more time and effort you spend trying to get even, the less time, attention, effort and energy you have to commit to doing the things that will actually help you do the above.
Lastly, make sure that if you do pursue another woman, you actually are honest with yourself about how, what, who see is and will be as a mate. Be honest with yourself and protect yourself by making wise choices to start with. Your ex may have shown you signs of how she was or could be, so make sure you are realistic about others, especially when dating or more.
2007-02-25 09:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting even is not the answer here hon. Two wrongs do not make a right and having revenge on her will not really help you feel better at all. If anything it will ultimately make you feel worse down the road and it will not undo what already has been done. Just move on with your life and live well without her in it. They say that living well is the best revenge. You may also need counseling and help to get past this.
2007-02-25 09:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if getting even is going to help you in any way, or if it's just going to prolong your anger. Being angry at somebody hurts you a lot more than it hurts them. Some famous person once said "If you allow your enemy to make you angry, you're doing half his work for him.
The best thing you could possibly do would be to drop it - completely. If there aren't any kids involved, move if you can. If there are kids involved, see if there's any way you can arrange pickup and delivery of the kids in such a way that the two of you don't have to see eachother at all. Don't call her or email her or even talk about her to other people. If other people talk about her to you, say "I don't even want to hear that name mentioned in my presence."
She'll be the one getting even with herself, if she tries to rock the boat and make contact with you, etc. She can hurt herself much more than you can hurt her.
Enjoy your freedom and your new life.
2007-02-25 09:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a goregous new girlfreind and start a new hobby that she never would let you do. car parts and a pool table in the kitchen, remember she has no say in anything you do. that'll p her off. or you could screw one of her friends physically or literally whatever you chooose, just be happier than she is.
you should call her the ex wife from now on though
2007-02-25 09:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By living well. By getting on with your life and rebuilding. So long as you obsess about getting even, she is still the one with all the power. By imaging a time in the not too distant future when you will pass her on the street with your new, young, rich wife. Let it go. You'll sleep better in the long run.
2007-02-25 09:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't get even, you got screwed and there's nothing you can do about it. The only thing on your side now is time, eventually the anger, pain and embarrassment of it all won't be so bad.
Don't make yourself vulnerable again.
2007-02-25 09:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by WhooHoo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kinder than you have to be. Be gentler than you have to be. Be sweeter than you have to be.
If you have to pay child support - pay it! And don't complain about it to her or to the kids!
Be a 'super Dad' - go the extra mile.
(Make people wonder how she could have been so stupid as to leave you! -- and better yet - have her question why she divorced you!)
Then, in a few years - remarry someone who is 10 times the woman she is - and then be very proud when you can introduce her to your ex-wife. (Give the new wife a bigger/better ring, house, etc.) AND - when you do talk to your ex-wife - be as courteous to her, as you would be to your best friend in the world!!!
Show concern - and make it genuine - about how she is doing, how her family is, etc.
I have done this to my ex-husband for the past 21 years! (And - although it was not done on purpose - I did get married again (about 12 years after our divorce) to a guy who was 'younger than him, taller than him, and active duty military' - just the type of guy he used to tell me that I would leave him for! -- I didn't leave him for my current husband - but I had told my husband (then) that if he treated me right, I wouldn't leave him. (He did NOT treat me right!)
But, when I do talk to him - I do not shout at him. I do not talk mean to him. I do not snarl at him. I _do_ ask him how he is doing - and I mean it! I do ask about his family - I do continue to care about them. And - when we have to be together - children's weddings, etc. - I try to be as cordial to him as I possibly can be! (Though it is also clear to everyone - that I am NOT looking to re-unite with him in any way, shape or form!)
Has it stopped him from calling a B
Has it stopped him from trying to hurt me? Nope.
And...has he told me that he misses me - and what we had together? You betcha!!!
2007-02-25 10:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by sogerd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know two worngs don't make a right its about being the better person believe me hunny I know your angry and pissed but sometimes juts giving her the cold shoulder and acting like you dont care and BE HAPPY bothers her more than anything. If you show your mad and hurt she'll know she got to you but by u ignoring her just pisses her off more. Just act liek you dont care and show her your happy and moved on. Let her be aware that you dont need her and never have. TRUST ME
2007-02-25 09:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by C I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try to get revenge you just keep the connection going and going and screw yourself in the end.
Move forward and live well. That's the best revenge.
2007-02-25 09:43:13 · answer #11 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋