I have heard that when you marry the sex stops. but my husband and i have sex 3 to 4 times a week.?

Question

so why is this such a famous saying since it is obviosly not a fact?

Answer 1

because we are not the norm....my husband and I still have sex 3-4 times a week as well and we are older than many on here.....so enjoy it while it lasts and don't worry about the rest.....

Answer 2

How many children do you have and what ages? It's not the marriage that hinders the sex it's the fatigue caused by children. LOL. My husband is an over the road truck driver and is only home two nights per week. We have sex 2-3 times while he's home so your 3-4 doesn't impress me much assuming he's home every night. But, our children are all 10yr. old or older now. When they were all younger there were deffinate "dry" periods of no sex for 2-3wks at a time. Fun question.

Answer 3

I depends on how long you've been together before you got married and if you still have that fire that most people have when they first started dating. It's not that when people get married they are less attractive to eachother as it is the stress of day to day life and being busy, and eventually having children that make sex less of an important thing in their life....if you're having it 3 -4 times a week, good for you, and don't worry about what the popular "saying" is about marriage...just enjoy it!!

Answer 4

For every fact, there are 100000000 myths. I believe that generally speaking, once two people are married and living together day in and day out, there will come a point when they have become too intimate. That is, knowing someone completely inside and out can sometimes be a turnoff. However, of course, this doesn't mean they are not in love with/attracted to each other anymore. An example, albeit probably a poor one: I love baked potatoes. I love them with butter, or butter and chives, or butter and sour cream. I've loved them forever. But sometimes, at the restaurant, even though I love them, I won't be "in the mood" for one and i'll have French Fries instead.
It is sad though, when sex becomes completely non-existant. It hasn't for me and I've been married for over 7 years :)

Answer 5

Sex doesn't stop once you sign a marriage license, of course. But there is an inevitable decline that takes place over a long period of time (whether teh couple is married or not). If you show me a couple whos sex is still as intense after 10 years as it was when they first met - I'll say, good for them. But usually it just doesn't happen. Other things become more important.

Answer 6

It doesn't stop unless there are problems in the relationship, but the initial passion will wear off. Plus once you have kids, sex takes a backseat to everything else.

If it's important to you and your partner, make sure you communicate with each other. Don't think he can read your mind because he can't.

But yea, it does dwindle, but in a strong relationship it won't go away entirely. Sex isn't the end all be all of a marriage. Don't count the quantity, but love the quality.

Answer 7

As with many popular sayings, it doesn't apply to everyone (as you can see). It came into being however, because it is very common for the frequency of sex between a couple once they are married to significantly decrease or stop altogether.

So it is a fact, for those whom it applies, but it's rather pessimistic for someone to say it to another, or when it's not what they (the speaker) are living through at the moment.

Answer 8

We're the same, and been married over 17 years. I guess it all depends upon the closeness of the relationship and the depth of the love. It's more of a myth, than a famous saying, and like a lot of myths - simply not true.

Answer 9

Well, we all know now that farmgirl isn't getting any. Wow.

At any rate, it depends on the couple, I've noticed. I've known couples who have married for convenience, money, and for love. The ones who married out of convenience or for money pretty much stopped wanting it the second they ate the wedding cake. They don't have to try, anymore. They've landed the man they've wanted.

I married my husband for love. I still try for seven or twenty times a week. lol

Answer 10

Every couple is different in that area of a relationship, so, just what till yours hit it's peak. After about 2 to 3 years things will began to slack off unless you are one of the smart ones to keep excitement behind the doors.

Answer 11

I notice you didn't bother to say how long you've been married... See if you can continue having sex with your husband 3 or 4 times a week, every week, for the next five years. Then come back and ask your question again ;)