has anyone held their bright child back from kinder because of late birthday. was it a good decision?

Question

My son is adhd and hates daycare (pre-k). He is supposed to start kindergarten this fall, but he birthday is late august, so I was thinking of keeping him home. I won't be going back to work, so he won't be in daycare either. I had him screened through the school district and he scored above average. I don't think he is mature enough for kinder, but I don't want him to be bored if he waits a year. Has anyone struggled with this decision before. What did you decide? any regrets? thanks

Answer 1

If he scored above average he would probably benefit from the stimulation school provides. Structure and social skills can be very good for an ADHD child, and if he has been properly diagnosed than the school district should be able to set up an appropriate classroom environment for him, with like minded children. My son has autism with a developmental delay, and I was scared to death he wasn't mature enough to cope in a classroom. Still after consulting the district, I put him in school at age 3. It was the best thing I could have done for him, I can't imagine how bad off he would have been if I had held him back. You know what is best for your son....Good luck!

Answer 2

My son is ADHD, and we had serious issues with his maturity. While he was in pre-k we got with the school district and got him involved with special ed. That doesn't mean he was "special," just that he had issues with social behaviors. The teacher came in twice a week to work with him about how to act with his peers, how to adjust to the rules, and how to deal with the frustration of a good mind and lack of words to express himself.

I didn't hold my son back, but I might have if he hadn't gotten the help he did. He's caught up with the other children, and although he does have some minor issues, with the help he got from the school (and us, of course), he's doing just fine.

He probably hates school right now because the teachers and the kids do not understand his actions and it frustrates him. The teacher needs to be told this is how things have to be, within reason, and if the school cannot help him, find another daycare. ADHD kids that are very bright are hard to deal with, but with practice and a few years of growth, he'll be fine whatever your decision. His age in school isn't important. How he learns to handle his issues. Don't let something minor like a number hurt his chances.

Good luck. :)

Answer 3

This is an important issue & there isn't just a simple yes or no to it.

I feel that going to school with children closest to his age is the best.

If there are things you can do or get help with you should do them.

At this age the sooner that he can get to the point of fitting in the easier it will be on you & him. (Thats not to say it will be easy now)

It is normal for young boys to be what seems to be ADHD.

Delaying this for another year & you will still have the same problem. Meet this head on & get it over with.

My daughter had about the same situation with her son & she was worried about it & it turned out not to be a real problem.

Give him love & the proper attention at home & there will be few problems at school.

Trust me, the father of seven.

Answer 4

I have a child with adhd also. If nothing else kindergarten has been good for him because he has learned how to interract appropriately in a school setting so thats one less thing for him to have to struggle with next year

Answer 5

If he scored above average, i think there is no reason he shouldnt go to kindergarden, and i think you would be depriving him if you didnt let him go. Enroll him and try it out for awhile, if it turns out hes a little trouble maker or he isnt mature enough yet, just take him out and wait a year.

Answer 6

I had to keep my daughter to go to kindergarten now she is in 5th grade and she HATES being the oldest one