different race relationships?

Question

me and my man have been together for 7 months now and everywhere we go someone is always making some snide comment about the fact he black and i'm white and that because im with him i must wanna be black! why do people have a problem with mixed race relationships i personally have never been with a caucasian male and it has nothing to do with the fact i wanna be blk i just have never been attracted to any white guys same with a lot of guys i know are not attracted to women of there own colour! does anyone else have that problem girls especially that because your seeing a black man people assume you want to be black or label you a "wigga"

Answer 1

Then snide comment back. I wouldnt give a fat baby's d*ck! They are just old fashion. Me personally never had an attraction to white women myself and I am white. I would rather date a really dark black woman from Africa with a plate hanging out her bottom lip and a big bone thrusted through her nostrils. I never found anything wrong with it, its a personal preference. Maybe you find black men more interesting then white men, just as I have found black women to be more interesting then white women. That is up to you, don't let a few comments or stares get in the way of getting what you want.

Answer 2

You'll find this stems from a lack of updated culture. A problem like this is generally because of existing social barriers. If you'll notice, there is no definite definition of race and biologically a person with dark skin may often share more with a person with light skin than another light skinned person, its all so very complicated. Race itself is a vague theory, and although its easy to recognize as a social structure, it does not and never will be definite. I encounter people who say things about me, and ask who I am, or even what I am.

Take everything anyone throws at you with a grain of salt, it doesn't matter. In many countries, such as India where the government does not collect "race" statistics", it doesn't matter.

Be proud, and don't pay any attention to color.

Answer 3

Consider this ok?

Everyone is spiritually, emotionally and intellectually working their way up the "Darwinian Ladder of Evolution" right? And a conclusion is formed when people get tired of thinking.

So, my answer is these people are emotionally stuck.

HOWEVER, they're may be a few exceptions- such as women who become lez because they've been abused by men, or men who become gay because they've been emotionally abused by women.

its possible that some kind of crime or some negative reaction may have formed their dislike in the past- and something that seems so trivial as an adult might seem a horrible item to a child that has this memory trapped in the subconsious mind that hasn't been worked thru.

The one good thing about "Star Trek" is that you have to accept EVERY RACE- even those not born on your own planet!

So if your friends are female tell them "Well, your b/f isn't a man until he's cracked black oak" and watch them freak out- if they do, they're not real friends anyway.

If I was you, I'd show sympathy for these people who don't understand- pat them on the head like you would a slow thinking child, with a mix of condensating attitude.

Watch them get angry. Listen to you laugh.

Besides, all of Gods children- so far as we know of- either bleed red from iron in their blood, so copper as some marine sea animals do.

Answer 4

Where I live you see a lot of inter racial marriages, whether black and white, or white and Chinese and I have not encountered people staring, but then I am not with those couples all the time and don't know if they encounter any stares or remarks from other people. If they remark things it just shows they are ignorant and living in the dark ages. The world has become a global village and we, the white people, are inter marry more than ever, so don't let it bother you, as I said before they are ignorant and should mind their own business. If two people love each other, that's all that matters.

Answer 5

I'm sorry you feel that way . i live in a real mulity cultural city and its quit common to see mixed race relations i have never been out with a girl of different race . but I'm thinking of it . i have been with girls that have been with black men and its not a problem for me . as long as your man is true to you and treats you with the respect you deserve then why let other people's opoin bother you enjoy your lover . but i don't understand why you don't find white men attractive . look through the skin and we are all really very similar . may be you need to date a well balanced white man if you cant take the comments . best of luck with the relationship.

Answer 6

Just remember that you can never please everybody, and that the most important ingredient in your relationship is YOU and YOUR PARTNER.

What matters is your (the 2 of you) opinion and how you complement each other regardless of your colour, or your origin.

I know that despite this day and age, a lot of people are still ignorant and narrow - minded, and I also know that despite me saying that it's only your opinions that count; you can never avoid being affected by hurtful and tactless remarks from other people.

So, I suggest that you maintain an open communication between the two of you. Talk about how these remarks from other people affect your own way of looking at things, and your relationship.

There will always be people who thrive on making other people's life complicated by interfering and making unnecessary comments. So, being open to each other and not swiping these comments under the carpet by talking about it when it happens will help strengthen your relationship and deepen your understanding about each other.

Good luck.

Answer 7

I have been married to my husband for 38yrs,he is Jamaican and i am white English.In the 60s when we met and fell in love,things were a lot different then.Prejudice was rife in the UK,we were shunned by both nationality's,i was spat at on the streets,and so were my children.
No one would give us any where to live,only the Asians accepted us and gave us a place to live.
In the 60s young people rented rooms,as we couldn't afford flats.The blacks didn't want us and the whites definitely didn't want us.Eventually my family disowned me,and his family took me in as one of their own,and that's where i have been ever since.We have been together 42yrs,i have no regrets,i love my big multi racial family.Love can take on anything and if you want it! Love will always win in the end.Good luck!

Answer 8

People often have problems accepting things that are different than what they are used to, even when these things are none of their business.

I'm with a white man now and I love him dearly. I'm sure we're gonna catch flack from some idiots who think that everyone should "stick with their own" (whatever that means) but we're a strong couple and nothing can tear us apart, definitely not what some lame conformist floozies have to say!

Good luck in your relationship.

Answer 9

That's just an awful term. No, I don't see a problem with it. You like who you like. I've never dated anyone who wasn't white (I'm white), but that doesn't mean I wouldn't have. That situation just never presented itself to me. It's too bad people have to make comments and act so immature. If you're happy with your relationship, you treat each other nice, and you have fun together, then who cares. People should be happy you found someone good for you. Good luck.

Answer 10

Just because your white doesn`t mean you can`t appreciate a man of a different race without appreciating your own. Just tell those ignorant people that you do love yourself but you`ve also found love in who your with. Love has no color so why should it?