2007-02-25 09:06:13 · 112 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I wont. Just because he stooped so low does not mean I have to. Let it go and work it out with counselling. Hope u can settle it cos this is a very difficult time in ur life. Know what u will loose in this marriage.
Frankly i could never forgive my spouse if he ever did that cos i could always imagine them together when we are making love. and that will kill me. I probably would leave.
2007-03-04 18:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by bright_merry 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It would depend on the affair. If it was a one night stand I would ask why it happened (too much drink ?) not that excuses it but I wouldn't give up on a marriage just for that.
If it was a long affair , say 6 months or so, then again I would need to know why it happened. Affairs don't just happen , there has to be something wrong in the relationship for them to stray. It would be harder to forgive as it is not just sex then, an affair of that length means there must be feelings involved and they must have been lying all that time. It is the lying that is hard to forgive.
Revenge is OK if there is no kids involved but when you have kids you cannot be petty over it . you have to let things go ( I don't mean stay with them) but be civil with them.
The best revenge is to get on with your life and enjoy yourself. That is what hurts the other person more , the fact that you can live without them.
2007-02-25 09:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by bluegirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have to find a guy first, by the time I do that the thought of revenge would have left me,and divorce would be on the cards. If I had an affair I would expect the same re-sponce from my hubby.
2007-03-04 10:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are asking, if your spouse had an affair, would you get revenge, and do the same? I do not think that anyone would get any satisfaction, getting revenge as you say. Where is your self esteem, I would feel bad if I did something like that.
2007-03-04 13:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After years of marriage I took revenge, well it wasn't exactly that way. My husband had had 3 affairs, all very public, anyway as he was my first and only love, I was devastated and wanted to know what it felt like to go with someone else.The first person, I knew was married so I couldn't go ahead with it, the second I just lay back and thought of England and the third person was a none event also. I learnt that kind of behaviour was not for me, it was a cold blooded experiment on my part, which I am not very proud of, but it did help.
2007-03-03 19:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No but I would want out of the marriage I wouldn't be able to trust him if he did it to me once, if he did it once and you took him back he could do it 2,3,4 or more times. There is more than one way to skin a cat so they say or a dog in his case then getting revenge and cheating back on him - because two wrongs certainly do not make it right and that's not the way I was brought up I know better than that and I would not go down that road to his dirty level.
2007-03-05 05:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by julie p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did when i was younger and it never solved anything, but that we weren't together anymore. Now that I am married I wouldnt do it because it would be pointless. What would you accomplish by cheating too? You are grown and should be able to talk it out, now being able to trust that cheating person is going to be a problem now though. That is the real question. Can your trust come back? Can you let it go? If you answer no to both of thoes questions then you need to seperate and break it off because love is just going to crumble just wondering if he/she just say they are going to go to the store. Hope I helped.
2007-03-05 02:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anayden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every relationship is different. There is not correct answer. you know your spouse better. will he stick around if you cheated on him? What do you hope to gain from doing the same? Can you handle it? Would you be able to leave with yourself? Its a personal choice at the end of the day
2007-03-02 08:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by Babe K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just LOVE revenge on 'the other woman'.
But I know that what goes round comes round.
HER day will come. She did me and my husband
a favour. Because we had problems and could see
why it happened (it was a cyber affair).
I would not do the same on my husband though. I
haven't got the guts.
2007-03-03 22:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If my husband had an affair, I'd take a good look at our relationship. If the relationship was bringing us both happiness, and he was a great husband who just had a momentary lapse of judgement, I'd work on getting over it and do everything in my power to make it work. If the relationship was making us both miserable and he was looking for happiness elsewhere, I'd end the relationship. Having an affair to get revenge would lead to difficulty in my life - why would I want to make my life more difficult?
2007-02-25 09:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋