7 years later and being 'in love' is an uncertainty
2007-02-25 08:59:12 · 13 answers · asked by marvalgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you thought you'd stay "in love" with your spouse for the rest of your life, you're going to be disappointed. After being with somebody for any length of time, all of their flaws become apparent and the newness wears off. Other people start to look attractive to us because they're new and exciting. That's the way things are and there isn't anything you can do about it. What you need to ask yourself is not "am I in love," but "is this relationship bringing us happiness, and are we treating eachother the way we should be? Are we treating ourselves and eachother with kindness?" Examine your answer and then decide what to do.
2007-02-25 09:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes through those feelings, sometimes multiple times. I have at least twice in 15 years. If you still value her companionship, or her role as your wife or mother of your kids, just try to focus on the good things. Also, try to spend a weekend alone doing something fun with her and maybe you'll remember why you married her in the first place. Good luck.
2007-02-25 09:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jille K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does "in love" mean to you? If it means "butterflies in the stomach" - this doesn't last forever, and you will never find lasting happiness if this is the only thing you're after. If it means enjoying the other person's company, being compatible, being appreciated and feeling the appreciation for the other person - a relationship can hardly survive without it. I'm not sure what you mean by not being "in love", so I can't elaborate much on this.
2007-02-25 09:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you are no longer "in love" then it's best to let your partner know of this feeling and talk it out, and if it is still your feelings, maybe a trial separation should be taken into consideration, if not counselling.
Before doing anything, look deep down inside, is there some underlying feelings?
2007-02-25 15:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by baby star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not got the 7 year itch have you?! Bring the romance back, candlelit dinners, weekends away, little surprises etc. If you still unsure then maybe the love has gone. Good luck :o)
2007-02-25 09:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all and sundry can die anyday, by any unlucky experience some human beings are reminded of this by ailment....it can make you cherish existence or you could provide up and by no potential adventure the failings in which might want to finished your existence... i imagine he will remorseful about this if he dosen't do this and that i imagine that is going to saden you, in case you do not see him pleasing his existence.... perhaps you'll seem back contained in the destiny and want you experienced as a lot as you 2 might want to have... do not waste time, no individual fairly has that a lot to waste....sturdy luck issues take position for a reason
2016-10-17 09:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real life can force all the romance out if you let it, relationships take work, and if one person doesn't put the work in, then it's over, just try not to let it be you that's not making the effort.
2007-02-25 09:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like the male version of me! Is bl**dy hard isn't it. Are you happy with her? What makes you think you are not "in love"? How old are you? Do you have kids? You not my hubby are you? :0) Good luck
2007-02-25 10:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by Psycho Chicken! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to worry.Divorce and find somebody else.Never stay a day longer in a relationship if you are not sure about it.
2007-02-25 09:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to be in love to be happy with some one all couples fall in and out of love at some time
2007-02-25 09:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by debbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋