Man, I am fly. REAL FLY. But nobody eva talks to me. When I wuz in da junior high and in da 8th grade, ova half of da seventh graders in da whole school constantly picked on me. I had no friends in da whole school. I just sat against da wall all by myself and ate lunch, while kids younger and da same age as me kept on picking on me. Now, I am 17, I am on da varsity basketball team at school, and I still got no friends. I've neva known a girl before, neva even kissed or held hands. And I swear I try as hard as possible to be polite, to be a gentlemen, and be really nice. Wheneva I start crying in da corner of da room, I stood up for myself. I grabbed dose kids and shook dem as hard as I could. Now, I just don't know what to do. I stand all by myself at lunch. Dere is dis graffiti in my area called 1UC, and erbody thinks I am a member of dat cuz I am always all by myself as a 1. I know I got to make new friends, but please help me. HELP A BROTHA OUT. THANK YALL SO MUCH FO DA ADVICE.
2007-02-25 08:55:07 · 15 answers · asked by mistafabboi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
grammer lessons would be a good start. and... be you , not someone else who you rather be.
2007-02-25 08:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Richard J 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 18. I was pretty much a loner through high school. I had friends, just really didn't put myself into one click. If I had to do it over again, I'd join a club or two. I was an athlete like you, but that really wasn't a good social exercise. Join at least one club, I suggest one that does community services. I think it's a good way to meet people and not feel weird about it. You still have time to make high school a great experience. Get involved. The basketball playing is a good start, go for more.
2007-02-25 17:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by metagg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Several possibilities. But the one most likely to help you out is maybe you are not as open as you think to friendship. Something i wish someone had told me when i was younger and felt like an outcast myself is, "it's all in your head. You see yourself as an outcast and that comes out in the way you relate or do not relate to people around you" So smile at people you meet, make small talk with people around you. And most importantly share your life and be open with people. For example talk about what you're thinking about, what your worries are etc. Being open with people invites them to open up with you. Also pay attention to how you act around people and women in particular. If you feel uncomfortable during conversations, people back off because they become uncomfortable. Moral of the story is you need to change your technique and being friendly and open will get you everywhere
2007-02-25 17:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by uz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're trying to hard. I wish there's a way i could help you but all i can do is give you advice. You seem like a really nice person from, but it's some people who just don't appreciate that. You know what, if you ever really need yo talk, you can IM me or email me. I wish you the best.
2007-02-25 17:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lania 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're shy. Try to be more conversational and say something interesting which will get thier attention. Show them you have a sense of humour. Put yourself out there. Find something that you have in common with these people and build on that. Meet people outside of school, that way you can start fresh with them and they don't already have preconceived notions about you.
2007-02-25 17:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by stell0603 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself man, dont follow the world or fads. use proper English and don't sit by yourself, sit at a table with someone in your class at lunch, and see if you cant get a conversation going with them. if you find a girl you like become friends with her first (try) once you know each other well and you are comfortable with each other, ask her to a movie, always give complements and be nice, dress neat too. you'll find that there are more than enough people who will eventually become your friends!
good luck bro!
2007-02-25 17:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by True American 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you are quiet. I can tell you that now. Quiet people that stand up against the wall at school i will not try to be there friend i would try for them to not notice me because i would think they are planning to shoot the school up cause no one likes them. Talk to people make conversations tell jokes just dont act weird like you are gonna murder somebody. That maybe the problem
2007-02-25 17:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Im just tooooo freakin cute 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
approach people, dont just be nice, you have to let them get to kno the real you, u'll find that ~1~ person who will b ur best friend, and when ur not alone anymore, u will have too many friends to count....ya digg..... u juss gotta find yo place...... u neva kno, yo place mite b 2 b da "1UC" at yo skool
ignore every~1~ opinion on yo grammer, itz da internet, u kan talk [[type]] how u wanna
2007-02-25 16:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by bbydOll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK wel first i would start out by talking to the people on the bball team...
then go from there!!
hope i helped â¥
2007-02-25 17:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by Kayla 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe because your spelling is the level of a 2nd grader.
2007-02-25 16:57:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's your poor grasp of the English language.
2007-02-25 16:57:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋