As I was growing up, sex was a taboo subject in my family, and none of my friends were open about it either. No one ever talked about it. Because of that fact, I feel totally disgusted by the thought of sex, in any form, dirty movies, books, sex toys, langerai (can't spell) and masturbation. I can not understand why anyone can enjoy this. But, I am married, and it is affecting us. I do not know what to do. When I recluctently have sex, I feel so dirty. I love my husband, and I need help. I feel dirty even talking to my husband about this. I do have depression and take medication and I do know this can affect me, but not to the extent as I have gotten to. Please, help me!
2007-02-25 08:51:10 · 7 answers · asked by jennishirley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will need therapy and counseling for this i feel. It sure will affect your marriage because in marriage intimacy and making love is important. You need to learn to enjoy being intimate with your husband in this way or it will ultimately end up destroying your marriage down the road. Go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help in this matter. He may have some great advice to offer.
2007-02-25 09:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even in the bible god said go forth and multiply, god wants you to have sex in the bonds of marriage. It is natural to want to have sex,it does not have to be dirty to do the nasty. How do you think you got here in the first place?, it is because your parents had sex. In my home sex was always an open topic so I'm cool with the idea of sex, but you sound like you need to let your hair down and go for it, sex can be a lot of fun when done with someone you love and care for. Having sex is a way to express your love for them, there is nothing wrong or nasty about having sex.
2007-02-27 22:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by sincity usa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-04-22 02:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are on the fast track to divorce. I honestly think therapists aren't worth their weight in garbage, but reluctantly you may be the only one I would actually say go seek professional help. I would say good luck but really it's just a waste of words with this problem. You are doomed to divorce! And the sad thing is I wouldn't blame your husband for filing! I don't blame you either, I would guess you could be labeled a victim. Unfortunately it sad that your husband is the one to suffer for your problem. Why did you get married? Why didn't you give him this information prior to saying" I DO"?
2007-02-25 09:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, you need to go see a sex therapist - a serious one. They can really, truly help with your issues, and will at some point bring in your husband so the two of you can work on things together.
2007-02-25 09:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really need to get some professional help. It is much deeper than depression. You need to understand that this is part of every marriage. Part of life. You need to learn, and understand why u feel this way.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-25 09:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by Lila 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should enjoy sex if you feel dirty afterwards take a shower
2007-02-25 13:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by tj b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋