If a guy told you he had made his decision and he didn't want to be with you all he wanted was to make his own decisions alone at the moment but he hadn't been with anyone else and never going to be!! What would you think & say you've been down twice to see him and he is always happy to c you and asks what you have been up to & you tell him you went to a 50th the other night and he asks who was there and you tell him and he keeps asking you who else, he shows an interest in what you have been doing e.g I am doing a course and is interested in my results and when he looked at them it bought tears to his eyes. His sister says to you just let him be for a while till he gets himself sorted and if he wants you he will come and get you but he has a lot on at the moment (business decisions). He is 25 and we were together for 3 & a half years. Went to c him the other night and said you can stay here if you like. He is quite happy for me to go in and make myself at home when he is not
2007-02-25 08:50:16 · 3 answers · asked by Jack 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
there and does not care who sees me there. He works from 5.30am till maybe 10 at night and he knows how much I care and everytime I am there he says he has not been with anyone else and never going to be and that he just needs to make decisions on his own. He has not asked me to move the rest of my stuff out. He is a country boy & thinks we should just leave at least a year becoz he thinks we shouldn't rush back into it?
2007-02-25 08:52:47 · update #1
Does anyone think that he maybe has pressure from his parents as he always smiles if I go to c him and some people have said they think he will come around. His best friend said that he told them I was going down to stay and his best friend said you two will sort through things. So I don't know. Any ideas would be much appreciated.
2007-02-25 08:55:05 · update #2
I have asked if he is just trying to let me down gently he says no that he just needs time on his own. Has anyone else gone through this?
2007-02-25 08:57:48 · update #3
It sounds as if he cares for you but wants to be left alone. You said that he is nice to you when you are there which shows he doesn't want to hurt your feelings but in private he tells his sister he wants you to leave him alone. Every contact you stated above was initiated by you. Just because he has not resorted to being ugly to you in order to make you understand he wants to be left alone does not mean that it is less true. He sounds like a nice guy but if you keep on making contact you could possibly ruin any chances of a reconciliation in the future. Let him go for now, don't call, don't email, don't visit. Let contact between the two of you be his choice. I suggest you move forward with your life and if in the future a releationship is right for the two then it will happen
2007-02-25 09:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a very nice person who is trying not to hurt you. Leave the boy be.
2007-02-25 08:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by nin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feel better now? i need a aspriin and ... what's your question?
2007-02-25 08:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Richard J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋