why in EARTH did HE LEAVE?am I ugly?was I needy?

Question

Why did he leave?
I know this really hot guy in my work area,and I came up to him and asked him if he was going to the Birthday party we were all invited,he said he didnt know about it,but when I attended it I saw that WOW HE CAME!,we started chatting up and after a few minutes another boy joined our conversation,he then mentioned to him about HIS GIRLFRIENDS HABITS ,then later on the night he sat on the other side of the table,and before we had to move out for the AFTERPARTY ,I realised HE LEFT! ,why ?was it because he had a GF? then why was he also speaking to the other girl at the end of the table??am I ugly?was I needy?

Answer 1

You are probably neither ugly nor needy (well, perhaps a little bit of the latter, given the tone of your question).

But the situation here is not so much about you, but about him.

You probably should educate yourself about the category of male species known as "Really Hot Guys" (RHGs) before you consider pursuing them. (Actually, you should research more about guys in general.)

Most RHGs are extremely used to having it easy when it comes to girls. (Just as their counterparts, Really Hot Girls, have it really easy when it comes to guys.) Due to their extremely good looks & sex appeal, they enjoy a fanfare, attention, demand, and popularity of minor celebrities. As a result, they can afford to pick and choose - and to pick and choose again and again. If/when they get bored, they can just drop an old one and get a new one. This, however, can leave a long trail of ex-girlfriends which may not only be troublesome, but also hurt their reputation.

So the careful RHG may hang onto a GF, keeping her for a while even after he's lost interest. (I bet he was talking about his GF's habits negatively.) He usually has to do this if he has slept with her. He will break up with the GF (or better yet, set it up so that the GF will break up with him), at a later, undecided, more convenient date. In the meantime, the RHG will still at least flirt, chat up, and hit on other girls. The RHG enjoys the attention, even from girls he may not be particularly interested in - it strokes his celebrity ego. And like celebrities, they will give very little back to their fans - only just enough to keep them hanging on.

In my opinion, it sounds like you are just another fan to him. He will give you a few minutes of his time, but probably not much more.

Of course, not all RHGs are like this. But they are relatively common enough that there is a similar pattern among many. You should be careful when you find yourself attracted to RHGs. Observe and study for a certain time period before you jump in.

If you find it hard to resist the attraction, then remember this: the less attention you give to the RHG, the more they may wonder why, and give you a bit more attention. They are so used to having girls go starry-eyed over them, that they are somewhat taken aback when an attractive girl reacts as if they were... ordinary. (Which in the end, is what they really are, but probably afraid to accept and admit.) Which makes you appear Special to them, and different from other girls. They may ask the same question you asked: "Am I not good looking or good enough for her?"

But it's still more about them, then it is about you. So I still think you should give this type of RHG a pretty wide berth.

I wish you the best that love has to offer -

Answer 2

OK this is a hard one to answer but I will at least give you some insight in to how guys work. No matter how much we say we are not hunter gatherers with a desire to spread our "Seed" everywhere we can its not true. Sometimes a guy has to know that even though he didn't spread his seed he could have. Sometimes you can get right to the last turn around point before doing something and that urge to do it just goes away because you know mentally that you can and there fore have satisfied in your mind the fact that you can have her. Some guys have the self control to not do this kind of thing at all (RARE) some need to take it a little further and some guys cant stop until they have gotten what their mind says they need to do. It sounds to me like he is interested and figured he could have had what he wanted and then the need went away he began to think more clearly and stopped before he got a lot of people hurt. I hope this makes some kind of sense to you.

Answer 3

Needy - but that is just a guess. Parties are opportunities to meet and visit with new and old friends. If he has a girlfriend and this is just a networking opportunity then it worked very well for him. What were you looking for? Him to be swept away by you - forsaking all others for ever and ever? He has a girl friend - he was just visiting with people not looking for a wife.

Answer 4

This question is stupid without a picture.

Answer 5

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