My husband and I are newlyweds and our sex life has been reduced to once or twice a week! I prefer to have sex 3-7 times a week. No- I am not ugly, unattractive or nagging, etc. -on the contrary. I am very attractive- I still turn heads. I am very supportive but I am feeling neglected.
He plays online games a lot. If he pushed my buttons 1% percent as often as he pushes his game buttons I would be a happier woman. Somebody please help me understand.
2007-02-25 08:39:08 · 28 answers · asked by Wanderlust 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think (and I have thought about it alot) it is because we make it so easy for them. Guys used to want sex more than women now it has switched because we are more demanding so I stopped being the one waiting for him to decide and turned him down some now he is right where i want him in bed with me.
2007-02-25 08:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my wife at home. I am very good in bed but she gets caught up in the game. So I know how you feel. To want to have sex that much you are good i bet. So don't worry he will get tired of those dam game and come running back. I also like to have sex 3 to 7 times a week. You can also try (I did this just don't talk to him at all until he makes you happy with the sex you want. I bet you are very attractive women. So you do want you think is right for him and you. Another thing is when I have sex I tell my wife what i want like are you going to stop playing the games when i want sex? (but word it like you want not someone else, Let it come from the hart) During sex people tend to hear you better lol. OK baby take care and good luck. Thorney
2007-02-25 17:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by firecoolerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you are married and after the first month or so the novelty of having sex everynight wears off. It is to be expected because you have to understand that you have to get into a routine and settle down. Realistically with work and other commitments you are not going to have sex every night. The online gaming is just a time he wants to be alone, having some personal time. You could do the same or you could take an interest in his gaming or find a hobby you mutually enjoy and spend your time doing it together.
2007-02-25 16:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably lacking mental stimulation, or maybe he likes to feel a sense of accomplishment. If you are not trying to have a child he may feel the effort is not worth it (it is tiring after all), and if you are trying to have a child he may be frustrated at how much effort it is taking and may be starting to feel some amount of hopelessness about the situation. It could be a lot of other things too, if he can't tell you what's up (without you becoming upset with him that is) it will be very difficult to get a truly good answer from anywhere.
2007-02-25 16:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by U Betcha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to put your foot down.
You say you are newly weds, you certainly need to put rules down for the sake of the longevity of your commitment. No-one likes rules, but we all gotta live by 'em. Marriage is no different.
Insist he plays on the computer for limited times only. Insist that you sit down and watch a DVD together at least once a week, or even a meal. Start bribing him! Say something like, "I'll do something for you, if you put the pc down for the evening!"
Good luck.
2007-02-25 16:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Online games can be addicted. Men are just little boys who love their toys just like women who like diamond !! Instead of complaining why don't you join him on one of his online session and he will probably notice you more often. After a long session you can seduce him and i think he will be a willing partner. Sex one or twice a week is not the end of the world.
2007-02-25 16:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ted B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i play a lot of online games and also many mobile games (like psp and gameboy)...it is true that i play more than i have sex with my girlfriend
but believe me when i say that i would have sex with her as much as possible....at least twice a day and more on the weekends...it would not be a problem and i would enjoy it......
but most girls just can not handle or do not want the attention....so i play games in the void in between...
2007-02-25 16:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by daddyugi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either 1) you're horrible in bed or 2) he is addicted, much like people are addicted to drugs. He needs help. No man will ever turn down sex for games, none, unless there is an issue. Maybe when he is playing start kissing him on the cheek, then get freaky and go down on him? if there is no reaction, or he says "not now, I'm on a raid!" HE needs to seek help.
2007-02-25 16:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no way to understand his ways.... you need to tell him how you feel. Say to him how about pushing some of my buttons for a change.... Or say which is it the computer or me you want???? Stand your ground and say I married a husband not ****** computer. Or you could try and join in with him on the computer and say you can play my hard drive while I play with your joystick lol???
2007-02-25 16:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men seem to put less effort in a women when they feel they got the women on lock and that they are going no where u need to let him no how u feel and tell him that ur needs are first then some dum games or u can getback at him by ignoring when he wants some
2007-02-25 16:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by BROK3NLI3Z20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋