Do people who have friends understand what it feels like to have no one?

Question

Do they understand that some people don't know what it's like to just hang-out with people?

No I mean like to have gone your entire life with ZERO friends.

Answer 1

No. I'm a person who's gone most of her life with absolutely no one to call my friend, and people absolutely don't get it. They ask me all the time how I could've possibly survived, and to this day I don't really get that much out of friendship. But I don't think people can ever truly understand how people different than them think. I know I sure can't.

Answer 2

Yes, even people with friends understand what does it mean to have no one because sometimes everyone feels alone and like no one understands exactly how you feel. Yeah, friends are for that to support you but they are not always there when you need, just because they have their life and sometimes they can't really pay attention to whatever makes you worry or makes you down.

I think it is a good start go try meet some people where you live, or from where you work, in school, university just give these people more chances to get close to you, try to trust who you feel you can and in this way you will find some friends. If you do not have environment where you can mix with more people, then go to swimming lessons, tennis lessons, language lessons, exhibitions, open discussions on topics, just go to some events where you can talk with people with the same interests like you.

I also lack social contacts, guess same like you, I have just 2 real friends and that's why I chat a lot with people cuz I need to talk with the people. But the Internet is not so suitable for relationships or dates, but yeah you can meet some girls online for friends and go meet in real and hang on the streets together too. Just be cautious cuz in Internet some people have fake identity but not all of course..so you can also meet some trusted people from the chat room or msn or whenever you know some, living close to you.

But even when you have friends, do not expect 100% understanding, the friendship is more or less compromising, tolerance, loyalty and not every time you have these people around you. Friends are to share stuff with them and to enjoy being together when you both are free, to give and receive advices, help, support and sometimes of course to bump heads and to have different opinions, to explain to each other who what mean and someone to make the first approach, to compromise and finally to restore the friendship like it always use to be. Just try to mix with more people and you will experience all that. You do not need many friends, quality before quantity. It is enough to have 1 trusted friend than 100 friends you can't rely on. But it is good to have more acquaintance because you never know who of them will become more close friend and just try to know more people and you will have friends, I am sure! Just smile more and have fun!

Answer 3

The grass is always greener on the other side. I enjoy lots of alone time and I'm very independent, so I can't say I understand wanting more people around than I already have. I do know this: The number of people you have around you is directly proportional to the number of ENEMIES, and friends, that you have.

Answer 4

Yes!!!! I used to be like this myself, when you seem to know all these people and have no real friends.
I realised to have friends you need to be one. I used to try and choose my friends by what kind of things they were into and music they listened to. It doesn't always work that way. I was a go-it-alone metalhead and my best friend now is a stay-at-home mum of three. Talk to everyone and be sincere. There are no strangers, only friends you have not met yet!!!

Answer 5

Those people who don't know what's its like to just hang-out with people need to learn to just put themselves out there. They really have nothing to lose. But I guess sometimes it is hard to make friends. I have friends but I'm such an independent person that I don't really hang-out a lot with them unless its a school related activity. I definitely should make the effort to hang out more with others?

But its funny. I DO spend time with my family because they're there and I know when exactly they are available. Sometimes you may see me hanging with people or by myself. I would say that I understand what it feels like to have no one. Relationships are sometimes hard for me because of my serious drive and sort of reserved nature.

Whether they understand or not depends on whether or not they have been in your shoes before. A lot of people have experienced a point in their life time when they felt alone, even people with a lot of friends. You can have a lot of people admire you for your abilities or looks, but never really look past that and getting to know who you really are. So, yeah people do understand those people who don't know what's it like to just hang-out with people.

Answer 6

Yes, cos sometimes when im surrounded by so many people, i still feel alone. Its like im so busy out there while im all alone inside. I'd understand and i care. Cos im being the difference that i want in this world.

Answer 7

omg, yes. cause EVERYONE has had a time when theyre all alone, including those with friends. I have friends, but i always feel so alone, cause none of them feel true. And the one that did abandened me.

Answer 8

Some of them do probably. Because at one time, they might not have had friends and could have been that lonely person.

Answer 9

I do not think that they do because only someone who is in that situation will understand.

Answer 10

you always have god, you should start there. i understand, but i also understand you need to be true to yourself and then others. for example, know what your good at and concentrate on exposing that. look at you like a salesman...sell the good parts and downlplay the bad. again, they understand but they and i believe god helps them that helps themselves.