My baby son is 12 weeks old now and I'm still finding sex painful - especially afterwards, when I ache for hours!
I had a normal delivery and no stitches.
Anyone else experienced this?
2007-02-25 08:22:17 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
First of all congratulations on your baby!
Like everything in pregnancy, everyone's so different and for some people it takes much longer to heal than the six weeks the doctors tell you. Your body's been through so much, and even though you had a normal delivery the strain of carrying a baby for nine months and giving birth can cause all sorts of bruising to tissues which can take a long time to resolve. Also, worrying about having sex (which is a perfectly normal concern after pregnancy!) can make your vaginal muscles tense up involuntarily, and this then makes things even more uncomfortable and painful.
Painful sex can sometimes also be a result of pelvic organ prolapse, where the strain of carrying a baby weakens your pelvic floor muscles and this then causes one or more of the organs in your pelvis to move downwards. A gynaecologist can check for this with a simple examination.
It's probably all fine and will just take patience and some understanding from your partner, but do see a doctor just to rule out prolapse or other problems, and to reassure yourself about why you're hurting for so long afterwards.
2007-02-25 12:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by Daniel R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a while as your body has been through a lot, it took me a long time but that was more of an emotional thing as had a horrid natural birth with my first.Could be worth getting a good lube to make things easier.Stress wont help, try to relax and take your time, no rush.You still need to rest after what the body has just been through.It'll get better!
2007-02-26 06:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by kazza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're aching for hours after sex you need to book an appointment with your gyno. On the whole, sex might not feel like it used to until a year after birth, on average. You need to tell your partner to go slow, use lots of lubrication, and stop when it hurts. Good luck!
2007-02-25 08:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by chamely_3 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your body has changed so much and needs time to get back to normal. Given this, sex might have to be very different for a while. Your partner should be sensitive to that--does he know it's hurting you? Perhaps he should work with you to find a way that won't cause you pain for hours after!!! Obviously lots of lube is needed, and going slow. I found for a long time after i needed lots of foreplay, lube, and starting very shallow for the first while. Get that man working with your new/changed body!
2007-02-25 08:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by kammie42001 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had sex 2 weeks after but it was painful for the first 3 times
2007-02-25 10:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex after 4 weeks with both my c-section and normal delivery. If i was you i would see my GP and put my mind to rest good luck x x
2007-02-27 03:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had residual pain for several months after. Things take time to heal. I suggest trying different positions, KY or other lube, and possibly and an ice pack after. (a lot of blood goes into that area and can be causing the aching after.)
Good luck.
2007-02-25 08:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by dibzz d 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex should NOT hurt after having a baby.
(Most people wait about 4-6 weeks for stitches to heal up).
Time to see your DOCTOR.
2007-02-26 07:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Haydn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEAH ...It took about 5 months untill i wasnt sore afterwards...my son is seven months old and it is still kinda scary and hurts when we start to have sex, unless i use a lubricant, but i had LOTS of stitches
2007-02-25 08:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different i couldn't wait more than ten days and i felt fine it didn't hurt. I had a quick pain free labour and no stitches, sorry hope you feel more comfortable soon don't let it put you off!
2007-03-01 07:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by sm80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋