Can a guy subscribe to a magazine like "Playboy" without harming his relationship with his gf/fiance/wife?

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Answer 1

But of course, Scott.... You're just thinking about it for the articles, right?? Seriously though Scott, It truly wouldn't bother me. I know what kind of relationship my hubby and I have. It all boils down to the security of the woman and the intentions of the man wanting the magazine!!

Answer 2

Nope. Having that magazine makes women feel as though her man will more likely cheat on her or get his kicks from self gratification rather than making her happy. It's a real no-no in most healthy relationships to have such materials in the household or even looked at. Letting her know before you start the relationship ... it's good to be honest but most girls would run the other way if her man was into that. Not opening up about it ever or introducing it into a relationship will ruin said relationship. You need to work this out with your girl and get her real response. There are a lot of women who say it is okay but deep down inside, it is not to them. Playboy magazine is very trashy and healthy minded people don't want to add trash to their lives. Pornography is very degrading and will ruin your relationships (even platonic ones with women!). If you can't respect a woman she will never respect you. It will make her very insecure around you... 4sanity is right on the money! She will always second guess you.

From my OWN experience I dated a guy who first in the relationship said he was against porn and then told me one day he gets off on it all the time. He ruined our relationship and even the friendship we had. I was always second guessing him...whether he was getting with some other girl or if he was undressing me with his eyes (we were not intimate in such a way!) and it made me uncomfortable to be around him or even talk to him. I ended contact with him because he made me very wary (then found out he was with other women...possibly a few!)

Don't do porn, man! It will destroy you. I have male coworkers who don't get it and think I'm crazy to have a problem with it but I never told them that my last boyfriend was obsessed with it (what began with casually looking at it and then an obsession). It's not right.

Answer 3

I buy playboy for my husband as I have taken the time to read it myself. I even purchased him a copy of 50 years of playboy before we were married. I wanted to show him that there will be no shame in our marriage. Of course it is personal choice and one persons marriage is certainly different from the next. I just found that if I tried to put locks on different things in my marriage, then the marriage it'self would become stressful. My perception on this magazine is that it portrays woman as feminine and celebrates the female body. It's unlike the hardcore legs spread type magazines, I find them unflattering and repulsive. It's a mens magazine, with mens issues discussed within it's content. Sure,there are beautiful woman in this magazine, but he will see beautiful woman in the street. I don't believe you can harm the relationship if your partner is aware you are subscribing the magazine, she does not have any insecurities about her body image and respects herself. It is not disrespecting me that my husband reads this magazine, if i had a problem with it I would be disrespecting myself and telling myself that I was not good enough. In the end I don't feel inadequate against the material in this magazine. I am here in the flesh, smart, avaliable and enjoy the differnt issues Playboy chooses to publish. Including global issues, history, filmography and life in general.

Answer 4

None of us can really give you an accurate answer for your situation. Everyone's relationship is different. Some people are quite fine with their mate subscribing to this publication, others are not.

Simply by asking this question, it leads me to believe that you secretly believe that your significant other would not accept this. If this is the case, why cause undue strain on the relationship, just go on line and view, www.playboy.com

Answer 5

I think it depends on the relationship he has with his significant other and her attitude toward such magazines. It also depends on the magazine - Playboy isn't as hard-core strippage as other magazines and isn't always horribly degrading. But mostly I'd say that it depends on the relationship and the woman. One of my friends loves to watch "Girls Next Door" (Hugh's girlfriends' show) and was really excited when her boyfriend's Playboy came with the issue of Kendra, Holly, and Bridget. However, one of my other friends sees such magazines as degrading to women and would be deeply offended if she even saw one in her boyfriend's apartment, regardless of whether it was his or a roommates'.

Answer 6

It depends on the woman involved. Also, it depends on whether the guy is obsessed with porn or just appreciates glancing at the unclad female form now and then. Personally, I think Playboy is snooty and self-absorbed, the women are phony, and the magazine is too full of ads and cologne samples.

Answer 7

I think that if you subscibe to this it would hurt your relationship becuase the gr/fiance/wife fells that why should you look at other women when you have them. Then they can also think that you might be cheating with someone else or planning to. These kind of magazines can really cause a lot of problems in any kind of relationship just like porn.

Answer 8

I think that any reasonable woman wouldn't object to her BF or husband having a subscription to PLAYBOY. Why would anyone want to be THAT jealous? Those models have been airbrushed to perfection so there is no reason to feel you have to compete with them, and there is very little chance that your mate will ever meet those women to begin with.

In the real world, we all appreciate beauty and we all have our different ideals. We can't be so immature that we are threatened by the pleasure someone receives from viewing those ideals.

I, personally, would be offended if my BF told me I couldn't watch a certain movie because one of my favorite stars to drool over was in it, and I'd suspect him of being far too insecure for me to continue a relationship with.

Answer 9

It's possible with this strategy: Difficult as it may sound, read the articles and be able to talk about them a little. Show your other half that between the maybe 20 pages of airbrushed nudity that there is actual decent content. Explain to her how many contemporary writers have contributed (Hunter S Thompson, Kurt Vonnegut, and PJ O'Rourke, to name a few). If you convince her that you are actually reading (and maybe even learning from some of the sex articles), you may even trick her into subscribing for you.

Answer 10

Sure, if he's honest with his significant other from the start and doesn't try to hide the magazine from her. Show her some respect by asking her how she feels about it before you get the magazine. Some women won't mind, and others will say No Way.