I have two boys 15 and 12. I had a stroke, and have been left hadicapped. However, my sister and brother-in-law are fine people and have agrred to help raise the boys.
My husband has gone through my 401K and has started on my pension. He is not earning any money, and has been fired from two jobs. He now has a job, but earns very little. He relies on my social security and the social security I get for the boys. I had a very good job before I had the stroke.
2007-02-25 08:13:11 · 21 answers · asked by Jeanne G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a lawyer... a good one will absolutely crucify your husband and he may not visitation at all if he is still drinking.
2007-02-25 08:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your divorce. The visitation issue will work itself out probably on it's own. I do believe they need a chance to see their father if they so desire. However, if he is drinking I would forbid them the right to go with him. That would be the time to involve the law. He could kill your children or some other Innocent people. DON'T stay with him because of the children. That's the worse thing you can do. Get out of the marriage before you are broke and your future is destroyed. Good Luck
2007-03-02 17:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is physically or mentally abusive to you or the children then his chances aren't good. It is up to the court to decide this matter unfortunately but your voiced opinion will count in the courtroom if you are planning to get a divorce. Your husband does not respect or love you by doing the things that he is doing to you and your family. Alcoholism is a disease that will take rehab and a strong will power by him to stop picking the bottle up. He is taking all of your money from you and your family and it will continue as long as you let him have access to it. His alcoholism is destroying your savings and income. Your two boys have to witness him destroy his life away and it is probably bothering them emotionally also. Please hire a lawyer before you have nothing left!
2007-02-25 08:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good attorney or go through Legal Aid (who also has good attorneys). Record all that you have been through due to alcoholism. Record all that he has done to the children due to his alcoholism. Record how many times he has driven drunk with the children in the car and you couldn't prevent it. If he has any drunk driving arrests get those records. Have his ex-bosses record for you why they fired your husband. Have your sister and brother-in-law record what they will do for you and the boys. Try to show what you can do physically and mentally for your children.
That is the way you win custody. And that is the way you get supervised visitation.
2007-02-25 08:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're able to be stationed at feet. Campbell, he went to the scientific care center in Hopkinsville, and as a prior Commander there i will tell there is a lot lacking from this tale. attempt contacting his chain of command for those accusations. they might assist you in getting the components you're able to extra acceptable practice you the thank you to and JAG isn't it. different than that, you could report publicly for supervised visitation based on your claims yet this would finally end up decrease back in courtroom. circulate to the courtroom homestead or communicate with a community criminal expert who will many times provide you a loose consultation.
2016-12-14 05:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, GET A DIVORCE and right away. Hes a User and interested in only himself. He is also a bad role model for your kids to be around. Hire a Good lawyer and get a restraining order because he views you as helpless and he will constantly be harrasssing you. Your Kids do not need to ever be around him unsupervised. Your Lawyer can fix that problem. I wish you Luck, hang in there Girl..
2007-03-04 09:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm srry for what ur going through with this dead beat husband ( if u wanna call him that ) how selfish of him to put u & ur boys, leave him and get ur self a good lawyer, u need to fight the fact that he's an unfit father for the supervised supervision, but then again ur boys are old enuff to decide whether they wanna see him or not ... & despite his "parenting" the boys shouldent hold that against him.. he's still their father
i hope all turns out well for u
2007-02-25 08:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did he get access to your 401K? Please don't tell me you gave it to him?
Your SS check is to help you raise your sons. Does this jerk still reside in your house? If he doesn't, have the locks changes.
Your chances of supervised visitation will be determined by a judge. Is it medically documented that he is an alcoholic? How is he getting access to your pension?
Get rid of this guy NOW
2007-03-04 14:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Lady Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to prove that he's an alcoholic!
Fight to protect your sons!
You could have it put in your divorce that he's not allowed to drink when he's around the boy's then, if he slips up the boys will tell you and then you'd probably get the visits supervised.
2007-02-25 08:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judges usually like the children to at least be able to visit the father/mother, whoever they are not living with. I would say your chances are very good, explain the situation and don't tell lies to make your point of view look better.
2007-02-25 08:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by Tyler C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a nurse. Is very common for a spouse to take advantage of their disabled spouses. Is financial abuse. If you feel this way you need to flip the blue pages in the phone book and contact the state disability. If you get social security they also have listed numbers of programs to help you.
2007-02-25 08:20:01 · answer #11 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋