ok so im 13 and my boyfriend is 18?is it wrong for me to got out with him he says that he loves me but he said

Question

that the first time i spoke to him so it was kind of a force relationship what do i do am i a bad person for breaking the law to go out with him

Answer 1

Ok thats too big of an age gap, there is something worng with tat guy's ego if he is going out witha 13 year old

Answer 2

You should consider going out with some one your own age. He is legally an adult now, so it is going with an adult. Think of it that way. I really doubt a guy with 7 years age difference has interest in you. You are young, go with a guy that has more in common with you...including age. I suggest that you don't go out with anyone over 2 years older than you.

He could hurt you, physically, emotionally and mentally. You don't want that. He could be a perverted guy that just likes hurting younger girls.

I think you need to break up with him, he could clearly overpower you one day and possibly rape you. And he could get you pregnant. It is likely he will say ANYTHING to make you feel good, but it may not be true, he only has one thing on his mind and that is sex. He knows it's against the law and it is in both of your best interests.

Im sure your parents would be upset if they knew how old your boyfriend was. You are young, and so is he. He knows what is right and so do you. Teenagers don't really know what love is, especially when you are young as you are.

Please, for your sake, get out of that relationship. You are not a bad person, but you are a little confused or misguided, maybe a bit naive.

I am sure that if you look around you will find a guy your own age who likes you for you and would date you because he likes you and not because he knows you are naive and will do anything to satisfy him. I hope you make the right choice. Too many young girls get the idea that an older guy likes them and even LOVES them, and they end up getting hurt, I don't know you too well but I wouldn't want that to happen to you.

Answer 3

Forget about breaking the law, if he's 18 and he's interested in a 13 year old I fear that he has sinister intentions. At 13, you should not have an 18 year old boyfriend... Forget that the age difference is only 5 years, that's entirely too much at your age. You're not a bad person, but I think that he may be. For your safety, you probably should end things with him.

Answer 4

the first thing that goes through my mind is statutory rape if you're having sex and where are your parents. second thing is what does he want with a girl 13 years old...control? next thing is his maturity level...must not be mature enough to deal with girls his own age.

are you breaking the law, no... but he certainly could be. are you a bad person, no but he might be.

you may not like boys your age because they're not mature enough and act silly. at age 18, your boyfriend isn't mature either. wait until you're more physically, mentally , and emotionally mature before you date someone much older.

what does "it was kind of a force relationship" when you first spoke to him mean? a relationship forced upon you is not a good relationship for you to be involved with.

Answer 5

If he told you he loved you the FIRST time you spoke with him that isn't right. Love takes time. You know?

an 18 year old should not be dating a 13 year old. There are many reasons for that. But you need to understand that he may not have the best motives... and even if he does it is illegal for him to touch you (even to kiss you!) if you continue the relationship he may end up in jail and you may feel pressured to do things you don't want to do.

You are not a bad person AT ALL. I have to be honest with you and tell you that I think you'd be best off breaking up with him and finding someone closer to your own age. Trust me.

Answer 6

Hii. Im a 13 year old girl and my boyfriend is 18. My parents say tht they are not happy with that but they said that they aint gonna tell me what to do. I think that we both sould get boyfriends our own age. My boyfriend said that he will never do anything that im not ready for coz he ws 13 once and he knows how it feels when people try to get u to do something u dont wanna. But its still not right to be with a guy tht age. I hope this helped. I know how u feel.

Answer 7

He's the one breaking the law - not you. You're just not being very smart.
He says I love you the first time you meet? Could he seriously honestly mean that? No!
You say it's kind of a forced relationship? Get out of it! Don't let anyone force you into anything.
Tell your parents, make sure you're safe.

Answer 8

You are not a bad person. You are doing something that is generally unacceptable. However, it might be a good idea for you guys to take a break and wait until you're older. See if maybe it'd be better to see other people who are around your age.
Later in life, a 5 year age difference won't matter, but right now, it's a major difference that many people will frown upon.

Answer 9

there is NO way i would let my 13 year old daughter go out with a 18 year old boy. No 18 year old loves a 13 year old. You should break up with him because its against the LAW!! He can and will go to jail if someone finds out.

Answer 10

what do you mean by "force relationship?"

from your question you don't sound mature enough to go out with an 18 year old boy.

i don't think age matters once you reach the age of 25, BUT before you reach that age , it matters a great deal.

at 18 he is legally an adult, he can buy a car, apartment, vote, and he could be finshed with schooling if he chose.

at 13 you cannot do even half of what he can. you cannot even work wthout your gurdian's permission.

and it is not illegal for him to date a 13 year old girl. it is illegal for him to have sex with one. the fact you are asking the question means that inyour gut you know this realtionship is not good for you and possibly could be a danger to you as well.

so no, do not go out with him. what's wrong with the 15 and 16 year old high schoolers? i know middle school boys are childish but you don't sound mature enough for boys that are past the 10th grade.

Answer 11

You will not be breaking the law, he will be. He is a legal adult and you are a minor child. If I were you I would be scared that he is telling you that he loves you. My word of advice is to discuss this with your parents and see how it sits with them. If they know this guy and seem to be okay with it, then go for it. If they freak out, which something tells me they will, it's probably a sign that you should be "dating" someone your own age. Ask yourself this, "if I was 18, would I WANT to date a 13 year old?" I doubt that you would want to, so maybe you should ask yourself why he DOES want to.