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Question

Alright my bestfriend has lazy eye and people make fun of her and like I dont wanna see her get hurt and stuff but it happens anyway...i STick up 4 her and sHes very pretty and other people think so but she cant bring her self to look at people!!

what are your thoughts on this?
what should i do?
what can i do to help her?

Answer 1

Sometimes the best thing to say to rude people is to make a joke about it. When you catch them staring, you could say something like "yeah, I'd watch your back if I were you because my friend here can see you both coming and going at the same time". Sounds mean, but poking fun at one's own differences often will make the person you are talking to realize that they are being rude & ignorant. It brings their rudeness out into the open. By laughing at oneself in making a joking comment, it shows the person who is rude that they can be rude if they are ignorant to do so, but that you are secure enough with yourself not to let it bother you. I don't know. I just know that my Down's Syndrome brother used to get stared at a lot also. He not only had Down's Syndrome, but he had a crossed eye when he was younger (that was later corrected with surgery). As his younger sister, I witnessed firsthand the ways that people made fun of him.

I know it's hard to stand by and watch and listen to people making fun of your friend. You are a good friend to stick up for her. It doesn't matter if she is pretty or not - the fact is, nobody should be making fun of her. I think the best thing you can do for your friend is to help her practice looking at people in the eye and holding her head up high with confidence. Be the friend that helps her to define herself not by her eyes, but by the person she is on the inside. Once your friend feels confident with who she IS, it won't bother her so much if stupid, foolish people make fun of her because of something she is powerless to control. I am a Christian, and I don't normally go around saying that someone should say something mean to someone, but sometimes a clever retort to put someone in their place can not only open their eyes, but can teach them to be more considerate. Saying something like "well, my friend can have surgery someday to correct her eyesight...it's too bad that no amount of surgery can change your ugly heart (or ugly character, or sheer stupidity, or whatever)...".

Answer 2

I think that a lazy eye shouldn't make people judge her so quickly, although it's natural for people to do that.
She needs to know that it's going to happen for the rest of her life, and some people are going to feel awkward around her because of her eye. But if she acts like she doesn't care and acts normal around people as if she doesn't even have a lazy eye, your peers will come to overlook it. Sure, it will catch their eye and interest, but if she shows that she is stronger than them, they won't make fun of her. People make fun of others to bring them down, right? If your friend isn't brought down or at least doesn't show it, then people won't find any use in making fun of her. She will gain respect of others and probably lots more friends.

For example, I have a friend who doesn't have a right arm. It was amputated when she was only eight years old. People stare at her arm a lot and she used to be made fun of. She lost all self confidence. But then I told her what I just told you and she acted like she didn't care and acted bubbly and happy all the time, and was nice to everyone. now she's the most popular girl in school and all the guys want to date her.

I hope I helped!!

Answer 3

I'm happy that you are such a good friend. Has she seen an eye doctor? There are lots of ways they try and correct lazy eye now. People are shallow when they judge a person by their looks, or have something that is different, kids especially are cruel. You may want to have practice sessions with her, to build her self esteem. Role playing sort of. Once her self esteem gets built up, she will feel more comfortable looking at people and accepting herself. Reassure her that it doesn't matter what jerks think anyway...their judgment is shallow and unworthy of her anyway.

Answer 4

She should be thankful to have friend like you...You are a sweetheart to watch out for your friend. If it is truly just a lazy eye... Tell her when she is at home to wear a patch over the good eye to strenghten the lazy one. Tell her also to stop making a big deal of it. The bigger deal she makes of it causes other people to see it as a big deal.

Answer 5

As her best friend, you need to keep doing what you're doing. Keep sticking up for her. If she really is pretty, then there's no reason you should allow people to treat her that way. You need to give her those confidence boosts so she CAN look at people. She sounds like she's a little unsure of herself. Sometimes you might need to give her a little "shove." What I mean is if she's too afraid to "move" and doing something by herself, you need to come alongside her and help her by giving her a little push.

Answer 6

She should get medical attention. The fix is usually very simple: wearing a patch over the good eye to force the weak eye to work. It doesn't even require medication.

Answer 7

Just tell her that it doesn't bother you at all!
It's a mean world, and people treat people different, who don't fit the normal picture.
Keep encouraging her and stick up for her as needed.

Answer 8

Get her to a doctor!

Answer 9

opthomologist.
take her to an opthomologist.
seriously. it's not a permenant condition.