My husband has walked out on me. I told him if he leaves this time, it is for good and that he can't come back. He is tied to a job, so I am sure he won't be going far, however, will be needing to find an apartment. After he left, I called him on his cell and asked him what I should do with all of his clothing, shoes, papers, computer, etc.. I said that he could pick them up in the garage, but to let me know when he would get them. So, he called me and picked up some of his stuff, but not all of it. I think he will need a UHaul to get the rest. What are my legal rights to what stays and goes with furniture, etc...
Anyone else know what I should be thinking of doing? He has done this before and has wormed his way back into our lives again. I don't know what I need to do to protect my home and family.
Also, he has control over alot of our finances and I don't know passwords, etc into our bank account. How do I see a lawyer when all of our finances are tied up with him?
2007-02-25 08:01:21 · 9 answers · asked by Jennifer J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stand strong...don't let him bully you around...every time he comes over call the police.
He is not untiled to take anything...especially when HE leaves...it will be decided in court by a judge.
Change your locks....call a locksmith...it will only cost about $25 30 bucks.
You are still his wife...go to the bank and take out all the money...IF you are going to get a divorce...use your credit card...he will have to pay it....I mean if he left you with nothing.
Get legal Aid....you can get it because of the children.
If he does this all the time...he won't expect you of doing any of this...so stick it to him before he really sticks it to you.
2007-02-25 08:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just find a lawyer, that's number one. Your lawyer will totally understand and when he gets done with your deadbeat husband, you won't need to worry about the money any longer. He walked out on you.......you are entitled to alimony, and child support. I hope you don't let him sweet talk you this time hun. He's a jerk. Good luck to you.
BTW.....You don't need passwords to bank accounts. If they are jount accounts, just go down to the bank and close your accounts, or at least take half. Open a new account in your name only at a different bank. There is no way he can take any money out of your new individual account, that is illegal.
2007-02-25 08:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell the lawyer this upfront....they can get there money. If you have been a stay at home wife....you are entitled to half. Also since he walked out on you this may be abandonment. You need to speak with a lawyer tomorrow.....and women are tough in situations like this....you will not be the first that the husband had all the password info......talk to a lawyer tomorrow.
2007-02-25 08:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be able to go to legal aide. Document everything - charge him with abandonment. Try to get the child support to be paid to the court every month - I can see this guy trying to avoid it.
That way - if the court is checking on him, he cannot skip or he would be thrown in jail. That is - of your state does that. If there is another woman - go for alienation of affection. He is obviously very controlling or you would know the passwords to the bank account - but get their first thing Monday am - even if you skip work. Freeze the accounts...
2007-02-25 08:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by snowdrop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definalty need a lawyer.. basically he controlls the money and without money you will be left broke... unless you have a good job that will be able to support your kids. In order for all this to happen you guys need to get a divorce.. or marrige counceling.. either or. If you do tend to divorce him you need to higher a lawyer that will help you with your situation. You also need a lawyer that will see who gets custody of the kids. IF you dont have a good job then he most likely will. Becuase your money might not be able to support your kids. You need to go to the court and ask them what you should do or go to a place where they will give you good advise on how you should sort all of this out.
2007-02-25 08:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-16 11:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wormed his way in, you should get everything changed to joint accounts and know what the password; so, if he left again, then you will be fine financially.
You will need to act quickly b/c issues such as these can be time consuming; especially about paying bills.
All of his things are yours, it is up to you if you want the courts to divide it or do it yourself.
2007-02-25 08:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine23511 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get alawyer threw legal aid its cheap or no cost you need to divorce him and get custody of your kids get a restraing order don't let him beg back or you'll keep going threw it
2007-02-25 08:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get lawyer girl get what is yours
2007-02-25 08:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by God's chosen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋