We are a family with 2 small children, 3 & 7 and rent a room out to a lodger in our house. Our recent lodger moved in 2 weeks ago and we are not too happy with her. She is pleasant and nice BUT she is really into clubbing and I was woken up by her and her b/f on Fri at 1.30am until they left again at 3am! Although they were not horribly noisy, they were noisy enough to wake me. Last night, she got up at 2am to go out clubbing and again I was woken up whilst she moved about getting ready. I am not sure what to do but I do need to sleep as I am up at 7am with the kids!
She also helps herself to our foodstuffs. It is always, can I borrow a little of this? but it is now going on everyday and I wonder why she does not buy stuff herself?
To top it all we are still waiting for the rent in advance. She said that her bank messed up the transfer and the money should be with is sometime this week.
Any advice? Should we just get rid of her now or give her a chance after a chat?
2007-02-25 07:35:41 · 9 answers · asked by Stephanie C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Looks like a very bad start and 99% of the time that is what you will contend with form now on if not worse. Myself,I woud get out of that situation as early as possable because it will be harder to do so the longer you try to deal with it.
2007-02-25 07:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by fred b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope you have a written contract to cover yourself. If so check what you have included and go by the rules as this will be a legal documant. If there is no written contract tell her point blank that she has 48 hours to pack and go - she is taking you for a fool (sorry) and has to go; though be prepared for tears and begging - if she can afford to go clubbing she can afford to pay the rent. I would not leave the house empty until she has gone ; oh and i might be being a bit over suspicious here but get the locks changed as well. learn from this and if you rent a room out again do it through a reputable agency ; get at least 2 references (including 1 from current employer) and insist on rent paid one month in advance plus a months deposit up front (returnable when the tenent leaves). Also, in the contract with the next person specify times that they can use the kitchen/bathroom/ washing machine (making sure your family knows these times and avoids using them then) and put a small fridge in their room for their food. This should minimise and possibilty of problems in the future.
2007-02-25 15:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was just one thing or another (the noise, the 'borrowing' food or the money) then i would have a chat with her and give her another chance. But as it's not just one thing then i would move her out before she gets too comfortable!
you have to take into account that your children need to sleep too, use them as an excuse when asking her to leave, she has to realise that it is a family home and not a hotel.
2007-02-25 15:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by L D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her as soon as you can.She is a user and you are being used big time.Don't be sentimental or you will be the one on the street. She is trouble don't be so naive as to believe what she tells you. Bank messed up? that's and old one,and she will have plenty more like that lined up. Get rid now.
2007-02-25 18:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with her. Lay down the ground rules. If she is not happy with those then let her move on and get someone who respects you enough to treat your home properly
2007-02-25 15:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by alan h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is like this after only two weeks imagine how she'd be after six months! She clearly isn't suited to your household, tell her it isn't working and ask her to find somewhere else to live. Make sure you get any monies owed before she goes!
2007-02-25 15:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not have her coming and going at all hours,or her boyfriend in the house,you have kids and there strangers.money up front as well,if she can afford to go out she can afford rent.get rid and be more thorough with the next 1
2007-02-25 15:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
without a doubt i would get rid, anyone who rents a room would not ruin there chances of staying if they were good honest people, at the end of the day its your home
2007-02-25 15:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
speak 2 her first
2007-02-25 15:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by gem 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋