Women - does your husband help out with the housework?

Question

Ladies - does your husband help out with the housework? If not, why not? If he does help out, does he do a good job? And who does most of the housework, you or him?

Answer 1

hey..you already know i'm not married...but if i were....he'd definately have to do something....preferably wash the dishes...cuz..i sooooo hate to....lol...thanks for the 2 points

Answer 2

My husband does help with the housework, and does a fairly good job! He runs the dishwasher every night after supper (though he seems not to understand how to handwash what's left in the sink!), he cleans the cat's litter box, and takes out the garbage. He will also do specialized jobs, like cleaning the oven whenever I ask or cleaning bath-tile. I still do the bulk of the housework (cleaning carpets, furniture, laundry, handwashing dishes that can't go in dishwasher, ect) but I think we have a pretty good system going. I feel like a lucky woman as most of my friends' husbands do not help them very often.

Answer 3

Well, here's our situation. For the first 10 years of our marriage, my husband only took off the trash and mowed the grass. That's it. I did absolutely everything else, from caring for our child to cooking/cleaning/laundry. I worked full time as did he, and we both still do. In year 7 of our marriage, I started a new job which I thought would be ideal. However, this new job was extremely stressful and I had a "B" for a boss to say the least. I stayed stressed out to which he gave me NO, NONE emotionally support in it. Everytime I complained, he told me (and I quote), "Well, it's your job to make your job better. Quit your whining about it, it's JUST a little job anyway!". So, after 3 years in that job, I finally found a new job which I love! He, at first, did not support that decision. I told him that the new job would support myself and our child without him. At the same time I started this new job, I went on strike! I did ZERO around the house. I mean trash piled up to the ceiling it seemed, he had no clean clothes, I literally came home from my new job, picked up our child, helped her with homework, then sat my butt on the couch the rest of the night. I never complained again.

Do you know that for the past year, our household duties have been even steven? He does ALL the laundry and vacuums as well as the trash and mowing. I clean the dishes/cook/clean bathroom and dust! My life is not the same.

But, you can look at my new question, he's been ignoring me lately, so I don't know that I have the best answer for any marriage.

Answer 4

My husband doesn't do much housework but he helps with the big projects that I truly need help with. He busts his butt when he works so I think I should do the same.
He does a really good job (when I'm looking!) when he does the housework. But if I'm not there, he can pretty much live like an animal.

Answer 5

I was at home for 5 months and during that time, I did it all. But I considered it fair because he was getting up every morning to go to work. But now that I am back at work full time we share the work. There are still some things I always do that he never does (litter box and bathrooms) but he knows when it's his turn to do the dishes, or cook a meal, or sweep, vacuum, etc. If both people are working, BOTH should be contributing to the housework equally IMO.

Answer 6

I do most of the housework as I believe housework is a woman's job. My husband occasionaly does dishes but I mainly do everything. And yes when he does help out he does a good job.

Answer 7

I do most of the housework, and the cooking. He takes care of the garage, the cars, the den, and finances. I have zero problem with it and it works for us. I agree that the housework is the woman's job. Yes, he does a better job than I do when he helps me out.

Answer 8

Yes, my husband helps out with the housework and he does a great job doing it too. He takes out the trash, loads the dishwasher, vacuums our room, even cleans the bathroom and shower, washes clothes & folds clothes, cleans out fish tank, does cleaning out in the garage. You name it, he does it. And I thank him for doing all those things too and he even works from home, but he doesn't do it all the time, that's why I am here at home. I praise him for it and I thank him to making an effort to helping out. Okay, he doesn't do these all at once... (smile) but, he can do them. I appreciate everything he does for me and my family. (smile) Plus, he always is asking me if I need help with anything around the house and when I do, he doesn't complain about it, and does it. Ladies, always, always, thank him for doing things for you. Make it a habit to appreciate the things he does for you no matter what.

Answer 9

My husband and I are newly married and have a newborn. Neither one of us are neat freaks. He does help with housework when he sees that I am overwhelmed with the mess.

I think that laundry is our biggest issue. I could do loads of laundry and fold them and place them in the laundry basket. He will leave the clothes in that basket forever if it was up to him! He just sifts thru the basket and gets want he needs and leaves the clothes! DRIVES ME CRAZY!!!

We used to have a housekeeper come now and then to cleanup but not since we had the baby.

Answer 10

Only if I beg him. He'd rather spend most of his time upon himself. So naturally I do most of the housework. He doesn't do a very good job either when asked. He'll move everything into a pile and call it clean. Maybe I don't want him to clean...hummmm....otherwise we'd have piles of our crap everywhere. There'd be a trash pile, dirty laundry pile, clean laundry pile, dirty dishes pile, clean dishes pile, shoe pile, etc. Hummm....guess I never gave this much thought. I don't want him to clean because he's selfish and lazy and it reflects even upon that. Thank you for asking this question.

Answer 11

I have a wonderful husband who helps out tremendously. My husband does all the financials (pays bills, manages the money), the dishes, grocery shopping, and the laundry. I cook, do all the cleaning and organizing, plan the family events, and take care of the dog. We both take care of the children and their needs. It all works out well for us.