My husband and I have been married for 3 months, and we have always had sex about once a week. I would like to have it more often but don't want to hurt his ego nor put undue pressure on him. Any ideas?
2007-02-25 07:21:23 · 28 answers · asked by Silverwing6700 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when i was married ( past tense ) i would do this move in bed where your spooning but you just keeep pressing your butt further and further into him, even if you start to push him off the bed he should get the hint
2007-02-25 07:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What the hell is wrong with guys that are married for a few months and already cutting out sex! Don’t see it never going to happen here!!!!!
Ok few things you could do go buy a few lace teddies and a pair of high heels. Walk around the house cooking, cleaning in front of him.
2. Go to bed with nothing on rubbing up on him.
3. When he is a sleep go down on him until he wakes up if that dose jump-starts him nothing will.
4. Take more showers with him. You have to be willing to try new things in bed on the floor in the shower at a friend’s house (like you where in high school any where anytime hoping someone won't catch you)
Some where I read that the smell cinnamon rolls get guys in the mood, ( Me cinnamon rolls would get me in the mood) so bake some and throw them away you jut want the house to smell like them or buy candle with that smell.
If you still can get him to have sex with you but once a week then maybe he need to go see a doctor.
I feel for you just married you should be fighting him off day, noon and night. Don’t worry there are a lot of guys out there that know what you going throw.
Good luck
2007-02-25 15:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by choiceav 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? You think by wanting more love making with your husband will destroy his ego? It wouldn't destroy it, it will make him feel more of a man!
You need to just talk to him and tell him that you strongly feel like you want more sex from him. Make sure that it is not him that is the problem of not satisfying you, tell him that you just want more, more, more! He will get the hint and probably say something like, "She wants more of me, I must be good!"
Sometimes you have to make the first move too, by taking his hand and guide him to the room and just love him to pieces! Don't be afraid to what he might think of you, you are his wife for crying out loud. Wives do do these things to their husbands. He might even like it that way too. It works both ways. Plus, there are different ways to approach him too, just make sure you two are alone!
Don't let it be what you want all the time, it should be what he wants as well too.
2007-02-25 16:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that he only wants it once a week.
but men are much different than women and well number one priority in a relationship seems to be sex no matter what man you ask. so with that at his top priority if you ask for it more often than he will be very happy to meet a higher obligation.
but another question come to mind. are you actually asking or are you just expecting more. very silly to just sit there and expect men to figure out what you want with out saying anything. he pledged his life to you 3 months ago if you cant trust him sith a simple request like that what else are you holding back.
2007-02-25 15:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever asked him if he has fantasies? Or shared yours?
...it would be a good lead into a discussion about needing sex a little more often (or a lot). And you could learn his triggers.
You could also ask him about his feelings on self-gratification. If you are laying beside him, fantasizing about him and masturbating, there is a solid posibility that he may find himself in the mood!
Am I allowed to say masturbate on YA?
Live well~
2007-02-25 15:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys absolutely hate this as a discussion. Basically when you want it you should entice him. Honestly hes likely at his baseline sex drive and you are going to endure a lifetime of stress over this issue. You are going to get really tired of always chasing after this. find some other outlets for activity.
2007-02-25 15:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try initiating it more often, or give him hints...he'll catch on...Or, you could just tell him that you wanna have sex more than once a week, and I'm sure he's probably thinking the same thing!
2007-02-25 15:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could always just try to get him in the mood more. if you want it let him know or show him how much you want it! There's nothing wrong with wanting more sex and I'm sure your husband will be glad to help you with it! good luck!
2007-02-25 15:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer the door in nothing but Saranwrap....or other such revealing clothes.....leave a trail of clothes and rose petals from the front door to the bedroom.....set the stage for love...he'll catch on!
2007-02-25 15:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've been married for only almost 2 years, and I find that all I have to do is walk in the room, start taking my clothes off, while looking at him.. and tada.. he wants to do it. Go for it :-) Lol.
2007-02-25 16:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by It's a secret... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him a man...is a man being serious if you were to tell your husband that he wouldnt tell you no...it might make him think that your probally havin affairs because you haven't said anything about it until now..but tell him how you feel im sure he'd want to have sex more often...maybe he doesnt think he's good just an opinion dont kno because im not him so dont trust me on that one
2007-02-25 15:53:21 · answer #11 · answered by makaveli32491 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋