Why do people always care what's wrong with people?

Question

I mean I just think that's stupid. Oh your a goth/punk. Or your ugly. I mean why can't life be like a lemon, so we can squeeze our way through life with no problems? Is it possible for people to compliment instead of COMMENT?

To the first person - I'm not really talking about that kind of caring of whats wrong i mean something else.

To the first person - I'm not really talking about that kind of caring of whats wrong i mean something else.

Answer 1

I care what's wrong with people because I hate seeing people hurt or upset and I want to do anything I can to make them feel better. Is that a bad thing?

Answer 2

I think you asked a very deep question, actually, which I've never thought about before - and I'm probably 2x as old as you.

Here's my initial take:

Some people like to point out what's wrong with other people and put them down... because it makes them feel higher and better about themselves. And only people who are insecure about themselves, or worried about their own standing and reputation, need to feel higher and better than others. If you truly did feel higher and better, you wouldn't need to prove it all the time by putting other people down. Now that I think about it, perhaps this insecurity is why this kind of negative putdowning occurs more often at adolescent ages, when teenagers are more sensitive and insecure about their social standing.

Conversely, these same people will rarely compliment others because that would make themselves feel lower, and others higher. In the short term, the person who gets complimented usually gets the most positive attention - not the complimenter. This is why compliments are more rare.

But many people may not realize that in the long-term, those who give Sincere compliments generously also gain a lot of positive attention. This is because having these kind of people around makes people feel better about themselves - so complimenters actually become more popular long-term. This is why when you give freely - you also often get back more. And long-term, nobody likes to hang around put-downers as much - because they rarely compliment you, and are more concerned with the attention you can give to them.

Answer 3

Most of the time 'People' don't really care, they are just downright Nosy ! They probably feel better about themselves when looking at the negative in others. And yes it would be nice to focus on the positive in others instead of the negative.

Answer 4

i think we label people stuff cuz their different...im "nerd" and i probably always will be...but there are people out there who do compliment...but i dont know if life can b like a lemon because there are people in the world who only look at the bad qualities
life is full of ups and downs

Answer 5

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So if all people can do is find what is wrong with other people, then it seems that they are really finding faults in themselves. Thats what i think.

Answer 6

I agree with you wholeheartedly. The world would be a better place if everyone could just mind their own damn business. But then again, if that were the case, Answers wouldn't exist, now, would it?

Answer 7

because it's the negative part of human nature to find fault --
is it meant to improve others, or make our selves look better ??
---- who knows. In answer to your question -- not a chance

Answer 8

we don't. get over yourself.