so theres this boy at my school who i really really like and he likes me 2 but i have a bf and i luv my bf sooooooooo much. im stuck becuz i want bith of them but i kno deep down in my heart that if i cheated i would never 4 give my self.. plz tell me what am i supposed 2 do becuz im in desperate need of help
2007-02-25 07:17:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
WEll it sounds like you jsut want a little taste from the other side that the boyfriend does not have, which is so normal for anyone. You just need to really think and determine how much time and how much of everything you have put into this relationship with your boyfriend. Ask yourself is it really worth risking your relationship. You also need to consider if this other guy is only after one thing, and if yall might have something that is worth jeopardizing your relationship with your current boyfriend. I really hope everything works out and you make the best descision for everyone, just take into consideration that you are not the only one in this. Goodluck!
2007-02-25 07:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by sweetme35 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't love your bf (not with all of your heart) if you like someone else, and it doesn't sound as if you really like the other guy enough if you claim to love your boyfriend.
I'd say you need to break up with your boyfriend (kindly) by telling him straight up that you don't want to hurt him any worse then breaking up with him that it wouldn't be fair to him yourself or your relationship to stay together.
And it sounds like you need to tell this other guy (if he likes you so much he will understand) that you need time to figure everything out instead of making rash desicions that you may regret in the future.
And spend some YOU time, without a boyfriend at all, focus what you enjoy and helping others.
Get your dreams and goals at the top of your list.
Endulge in your talents and hobbies or your religion (if you have one).
Work to save up some cash
or do some charity work.
Learn to love yourself before you can really love anyone else.
2007-02-25 15:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, this is a dilemma. I really think that you should stay with your boyfriend because if you break up with him for the other guy, you may earn a bad reputation. I don't know how old you are, but it is never good to have a reputation of cheating or being with two guys at once. You are with your boyfriend for a reason and if the other guy really likes you, he will respect your decision and maybe wait for you. So stay in the relationship and make good decisions. Good luck with the dilemma!
2007-02-25 15:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by mcvcm92 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once in the same situation and I liked my boyfriend who is 12 like me and his older brother who was 13 and a half years old. You should stick to your boyfriend and not cheat or else that causes sadness, anger, and hatred. Plus, you won't feel any better once you break up. You'll feel as if everything was your fault. So don't cheat and stay with who you are with for now.
2007-02-25 17:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are finding yourself torn between two men, this can be a very tough time for you. You will have a lot of questions that you are going to have to ask yourself and take the time to carefully sort through them to figure out what is right for you. This is going to be something that you will have to address because it is not a healthy relationship to have.
You will have to decide if what you are doing is good for you. Is it possible for you to have a healthy and loving relationship with two men at the same time? Are you going to be able to choose one over the other? These are things that you have to think about and then you have to think about them some more. You can be in love with two men at one time, but it is not something that you can act upon without getting yourself hurt.
It is possible to fall in love with two people at the same time. When you find that you are having feelings for two people at the same time, this can be a very difficult time. You may be having some feelings of love in the same way for these two people. This is going to be something that you will have to lay out on the table in front of you so that you can see where your feelings are coming from.
2007-02-25 15:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by confuse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ever cheat, chickie. I learned that the hard way.
If you really love your boyfriend, like you say you do, you shouldn't even have a THOUGHT of liking someone else.
So really, you just need to examine your relationship with your boyfriend. Love is a feeling that involves two people, no one else -- you shouldn't have thoughts of anyone else.
2007-02-25 15:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by panini5000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you either need to dump your bf and get with this guy or say "hey i have a bf and I'm not leaving him maybe if i didn't have a bf i would get with you but its not the right time im sorry".......that's all you have to do......pick one or the other but you cant have both its not right or fair to your bf.......
2007-02-25 15:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by first time mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you already know your answer....don't cheat....if you are going to be with the other guy then break up with you bf first! You will get a name for yourself otherwise!
You can't have your cake and eat it too!
2007-02-25 15:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by TNL 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
stick with ur bf.....if u leave him 4 the other guy, ull feel guilty, ull miss ur bf ALOT and realize that u do like him more than the other guy..trust me...i see this situation ALL the time!!
2007-02-25 15:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really Love your BF so much as you say then you would not even be thinking about another guy. maybe you are not so hot in love with him that you are thinking about the other guy ......
2007-02-25 15:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋