I am engaged to a wonderful man but he is locked up for a couple of years. I have been celebate for the past year and I am beyond needing a fix, but I love him so much. I am human and I have needs but I can't face the fact I will be cheating on my future husband.
2007-02-25 07:16:47 · 27 answers · asked by JaNelle M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you have a decision to make. If SEX is more important than waiting on him, then break up with him and move on. If you truly want to marry him you have to leave others alone. Find ways to pleasure yourself instead.
2007-02-25 07:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing you should be doing at the moment is going in for some counseling. There are some issues that you need to be dealing with if you're throwing your life away on a man who can't commit to you.
Also, as much as I hate to say it....you're the only one in the relationship NOT having sex.....if he's telling you different, then you not only need counseling, but also a good smack upside the head.
Next, you'll be telling me there are no drugs in prision, and that he's "innocent"....LOL.
2007-02-25 07:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone new. He will understand, that the one he loves can't wait around for him and live in misery. Maybe write him a letter and tell him you are going to move on and maybe when he gets out things will spark back up. It will probably hurt him a great deal because he can't see you or anything and he is stuck in jail and he feels horrible for mistakes he made, but you got to let him know that you can't just wait for that long and be happy. He will want you to be happy.
2007-02-25 07:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't think you can remain celibate, you should just talk with your fiance about it. It's not reasonable for him to expect you to wait years because he chose to break the law. The fact that he would even do something that had the potential of getting him locked up shows utter disrespect for your relationship. If it were me, there would be no more engagement.
2007-02-25 07:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use self control OR call off the engagement.
2007-02-25 07:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak to him about this and see if he understands what your going though, if he doesnt then maybe he's not the one and if he does maybe a nuetral ground can be found where you get your fix but thats it. (like using a man whore or a life long friend that you know there will never be a relationship)
2007-02-25 07:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by jon a 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well as I see it. you have two choices.. do it.. and tell him.. and ruin the relationship... you have to tel him morally you know or it will eat you up inside :-) Or.. don't do it...and prove to both yourself and him that your love is real and sex is only an act which can destroy everything. is it really worth it if you love him that much? I think not...
2007-02-25 07:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by MrDave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Increase your activities or hobbies to get out of the house, it'll keep your mind off of things and make you too tired when you get home.
OR
Buy a rabbit vibrator and wait if you really "love him" you'll wait.
2007-02-25 07:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree if you love him then you will wait.Get a vibrator..Are you sure that you want to marry someone that has been in prison?? I mean what did he do?? Was he protecting you from harm and killed another guy?? If not that...then i would reevaluate your relationship with this guy.
2007-02-25 07:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you love him. don't cheat on him. If you have thoughts of cheating on him,then ask yourself if you really love your future husband or not.
Hope i helped
Sabby
2007-02-25 07:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sabby 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋