Is a foster home bad as they say it is?

Question

is a foster home bad as they say it is?like you have to wake up early every morning and all that stuff.

Answer 1

Depends on the family you're put with, depends on your attitude, on your level of trustworthiness and respect (if you're trustworthy and respectful most families will give you more freedom).

Answer 2

Basically, it depends on the foster family.

I had a friend once who's daughter didn't like the rules at home. She told her dad "If you spank me or make me do stuff I don't want to, I'll call Child and Family Services and tell them you're abusing me". He told her "Go ahead, they'll take you away and put you in a foster home. You'll be with a family that only takes care of you because they're paid to. There will be no extra treats, no presents at Christmas and birthdays, no trips to Disneyland, because the government doesn't pay for anything more than your food and board." That shut her up.

Really, the point is, it depends on who's doing the fostering and why. If the government pays a lot of money, some people may be in it just for the money even if they can't stand kids. Most people say though "the government can't pay enouhg to make me want to do it if I don't want ot." So I suspect most families are couples that really like children and want to help.

There could always be a few bad apples, even though the social workers check them out - people who have bad tempers, are mean, or whatever. Probably not many - kids old enough to talk should be able to tell on them.

That doesn't mean you can slack there. They don't ask you to behave any different than their own children, but they probably expect their own children to get up with plenty of time to get dressed and have a good breakfast. They'll expect you to get home on time, go to bed on time, do your homework and all tohse other things you're supposed to do.

If they want to make the effort to help, I suspect they aren't "happy go luck" or "whatever" with their attitudes. If you do things wrong, they WILL punish, including grounding and loss of privileges - and they mean it.

Whether you have to get up "early" depends on what you call early. If school starts at 9, I suspect you should be up by 7:30, and on your way by 8:30 unless it's a long trip. No running out the door at 10 to 9.

It could be worse. Foster parenting replaced the old system from 50 years ago, when they had orphanages and institutions for "unwanted", "difficult" or "neglected" kids.

Answer 3

NO I don't think so, I think we just hear too much about the ones that are bad! I am a foster mother and try my very hardest to accept each child that comes into my house as an individual. I suppose you do find homes that are not good but that is just true to life. I think anyone that is willing to open their home up has potential I think some just don't realize what all it means. Children in foster care come with their own traditions, beliefs and problems. To be a good foster parent you have to be supportive, non judgmental, and willing to work as part of a team with the goal of reuniting a family that is in crisis. Just my thoughts............

Answer 4

If I am understanding your question, a foster home is where you go live with a family, so it really depends on that individual family and what type of schedule they have. Many people open up their homes to care for foster children, I have a friend that has 3 foster children and they are well cared for, but she is very strict with them (but it is out of love, as a normal parent would do with their child) not out of meaness.

Answer 5

No not necessarily. My husband was in a foster home, and he was eventually adopted by the family. His mother is a wonderful woman, and I know that a lot of foster parents probably take after her. Not all, and I am sure there are plenty of horror stories, but I think it depends on which one you are placed in.

Answer 6

We have two sets of friends who are great foster parents and we were a foster family when I was a kid.

It is hard, though, for a kid to go into a new home and adapt to their rules. But it is necessary in many cases. Sorry if you are going through that.

Answer 7

Depends on the family you get put with. If they are early risers, then you will probably have to wake up early too. You will have to learn a whole new set of rules.

Good Luck

Answer 8

depends on the home. Some are great. Some aren't.

Answer 9

it depends. some are run poorly and some are run great. hope this helps. good luck.

Answer 10

HAHAHAHAHAHA Yeah it is. HAHAHAHAHAHA You're screwed.